Reply #25: Bullshit there aren't sacrifices. [View All]

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My spouse and I had our first kid while I was in grad school, so I stayed home and raised the kid while she continued on in her career. I ultimately gave up grad school in part because of our kid, but I still took the lesser job with the flexible schedule, and passed up other opportunities for a richer career so I could have the flexibility to stay home more hours. Our second kid was/is a borderline discipline issue. She doesn't do well around other kids, and gets angry too easily, and that job allowed me to stay home with her more, and that has helped her over a lot of her anger issues, where tossing her into an aftercare program with the same kids that bullied her and gave her problems in the first place could have easily turned her in the wrong direction.

Yeah, I made a choice and that choice had its own rewards, but there were things I sacrificed to do it. I don't regret them in any way, but society looks down on me more because I made less money than one of my abilities was expected to make. She is a bank VP, I'm a simple bookkeeper, and our friends and family see me as the slacker. My spouse still calls me to get me to "make" one of our kids do something because she can't relate to them the way I can. Things are sometimes sacrificed to be a good parent, and what is gained by that sacrifice can't be quantified in dollar terms, so it is ignored by society, and apparently by people like the OP.

And the term "Breeder" has always sickened me, especially when I see it around here. There are times it works as satire, but it is dehumanizing and it is especially misogynist, and I can't see how any decent person would use it or defend it in general.