Reply #7: Do you spend a lot of time with other people? [View All]

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If you feel like you want to be alone, believe it or not, the best thing to do is be alone. Seriously.

I spent about 14 months after I graduated college in a very isolated situation- I had a full-time, very social job, but all of my college friends moved away, and I moved to a cheaper part of the area that was about 45 minutes away from my old college town. So I didn't really know anybody.

But the truth was that I was kind of getting sick of my friends. I WANTED to be alone. And while not everything about it was healthy- being by yourself so much leads to much unhappiness- ultimately, I came through it MORE confident in myself. I felt like I was growing up- and I was, truly. I was maturing, because I wasn't relying on others to justify my existence. I think adolescence is marked heavily by a need to "fit in" and socialize with people, but eventually a lot of people grow out of that by finding a certain balance between confidence and politeness, and stop worrying so much about what others think of you- because there's only so much you can do, and you have to maintain your own integrity.

Anyway, I'm not sure if I have a point, here. :) This has turned into kind of a rant. But I guess what I'm saying is that you should just do what you feel like doing- if people piss you off, that's alright, just stay away from them for awhile. Show yourself that you don't need anyone else. And, eventually, you'll just get lucky and find that one person with whom you share a mutual understanding and caring, and nothing else will matter.

I did. ;)