Reply #16: you could try reading my post [View All]

[iverglas]

And then you could try pretending that if you read that, written by a woman about her husband, you wouldn't think that either (a) he was too stupid to live, or (b) she was a harpy. Or both.

And if you don't think that a man who takes it upon himself to mould a woman to his taste the way you have described attempting to do with your fiancée isn't part of the problem ... well, I'd hardly expect you to, would I?

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Warning Signs of an Abuser

Charm ...
Isolation ...
Jealousy ...
Emotional abuse ...

Control

Abusers are very controlled and very controlling people. In time, the abuser will control every aspect of the victim's life: where she goes, how she wears her hair, what clothes she wears, whom she talks to. He will control the money and access to money. Abusers are also very controlled people. While they appear to go into a rage or be out of control we know they are very much in control of their behavior.

Men who describe their wimminfolk as "adorable" when they simper and play helpless are, well, men who like helpless women. Gimme a real man any day.