Reply #58: I think there is some harm [View All]

[pipi_k]

in letting people vent because then they've gotten rid of a lot of that energy we need for change to happen...even if it's got to be done by revolution.

I see the same thing in my family. This or that member of the family will call me up to vent about the same old stuff time after time. The energy gets discharged (on me) and then life goes on as before. Nothing ever changes. A few times I've actually said, "Look...tell so-and-so how you feel, not me. I can't change your life for you...only you can."

Reply...."Yeah, I know"

But then a few days or a week later it's the same old stuff again. Why? Because the motivation and energy needed to change is redirected.

Talk, as they say, is cheap.

As Thomas Jefferson said in 1787, "A little rebellion every now and then is a good thing for America"