Reply #11: Response to Your Kind Letter [View All]

[Whimsy]

Dear Desertrose, I most certainly do not mind your questions and am happy to answer them. My husband and I are extremely close. He is a very sensitive soft-spoken man, a social worker. He is not prone to the ups and downs of emotion I am; he is more steady. His whole approach to his cancer is that he is grateful for the time he has had, his wonderful doctor and that he intends to live his life normally. He used to ride a bike and once he started needing chemo he switched to Yoga and has been doing Yoga for 11 years. He says if he had to find the Yoga through cancer, then it was worth it. He worries mostly about me. I have lots of abandonment issues because my mother to whom I was very close died of cancer when she was 58.I would say John is the stronger one because he can live his life and leave cancer on the back burner, whereas it is a front burner issue for me. But when he was very sick and needed a stem cell transplant I became his personal nurse, primary care taker, and just adopted a positive,loving, nurturing attitude doing everything I could to encourage him. I moved into his hospital room and believe it or not, we actually had a positive time together. I cleaned up after him, cuddled him in bed, and in general it was one of our nicest times together. So I know I can be strong if he needs me to be. I think this site will give me great help. I was led to it by a very wise woman in my life who is my primary support person. She knew just where to send me. Write again. Love, Whimsy