Reply #53: I didn't report being raped either, [View All]

[salin]

it took years to begin to unstuff the event and start recognizing how seriously it had effected me. Once I finally came to terms with it, I started feeling guilty for not having reported it - because what if I had been able to prevent the guy from doing it to someone else? That thought has bothered me for years, as it seems doubtful to me that he would engage in the activity only one time in his life. But it was a long time ago, and I went through the same emotions that you and demgurl express in this thread.

It makes me deeply sad to read some of the blame the victim sentiments that creep into 'rape' threads. On the other hand, over the years at DU those voices have greatly dwindled in comparison to those voices expressing concern for victims and reflect the due serious tone that the crime is exceptionally serious, and life-altering to the victim.

I am sorry to read that we have this experience in common. I just hope and pray that in our life times the incidence of rape dwindles to the point where it is exceptionally rare (or better yet non-occurent.)