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[demgurl]

that must have been a hellish situation you were caught in. I hope it did not happen over and over but being in a marriage I am not sure how you would have escaped it without leaving the guy. I know how hard it is to leave because I rescued one of my friends from her abusive husband. I had to show up many times before she was ready to leave. I finally contacted her parents and they drove over an hour to meet her me one night. We talked about what their daughter was going through (they suspected but had no proof) and we made a plan. We got the guy arrested - the guy was slimy enough we did not have to frame him or set him up in any way. While the guy was in jail her parents happened to be in town and took her and her daughter to their town. That was when she finally got free and has been free ever since.

I hope you had help and lots of support.

For me, I wish no ill on my attacker. That is easier for me than most others since I mostly blocked out the crime. I am actually harder on myself than I am on others and have found an amazing capacity, in myself, for forgiveness. It is my guide who reminds me that when I am seeking good things in life for those who have crossed me that I should equally give myself the same forgiveness.

By the way, all of this does not mean I am pointing fingers at you in any way. I think if I vividly remembered the crime I would have much more anger and perhaps I would be unable to forgive.

I hope you find a center of peace that protects your heart from all that has been done to you.