Reply #49: Alcoholism [View All]

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This guy is sick. I almost feel sorry for him, but he clearly didn't care about her and has just made the situation much worst.

Alcoholism changes ones personality which can make some people complete narcissists, lacking empathy for others. He was just apologizing so that he could feel better himself, and he didn't consider the feelings of the victim at all. This just hurts the victim even more, since he still doesn't care about her wellbeing, and is rubbing it in her face. The thing is that he is too sick to even realize what he is doing to her, so he is now playing the victim role.

His behavior reminds me of my own alcoholic father. When I think that he is trying to heal things between us, I realize that he is only doing it for himself, and doesn't care about my feelings. The letters he wrote was very similar too. I thought he was being sincere at first, but then he would only write about himself the rest of the letter neglecting how I feel.

Its sad that this guy is sick suffering from alcoholism, but the greater suffering he caused to others is far more abusive. The woman deserves to seek justice, since she is still the victim of the crime, and the guy needs to be removed from society so he doesn't harm others. Hopefully this will help the woman move on the best she can.