Reply #32: This is creepy beyond repair... [View All]

[CoffeeCat]

Ok, first off--a father does not have ownership of his daughter's body. That's the underlying
premise behind these dances, in which the father pledges to be the "protector"--thus ensuring
that she is "pure."

This smacks of boundary violations and a misunderstanding of the role of a father.

A father teaches his daughter self respect, and to care about herself. A father is a good role
model and treats his daughter and his wife well. Good fathers provide a healthy model for male
behavior.

It's not the father's job to take on some kind of decision-making role about his daughter's body
and what she does with it.

I say this as a mother of two girls. I hope they wait until they are married or at least in love
and in a mature relationship before they have sex. It is not my place to enter into some kind
of bizarre covenant in which I am deemed the ruler of their bodies.

These people seem to have some boundary issues.

Why not just have a father/daughter dance? Those are adorable. Why hold an event, which has
an express purpose of declaring that an adult male has control over his daughter's body and sex
life---which he clearly does not. What kind of a man would even want to be so overly focused
on his daughter's sexuality? Some of these girls are in grade school!

If you want to hold seminars for men--in which these guys learn how to be great fathers and husbands--
so their daughters grow up to have a healthy model for male behavior--that's great. I totally applaud
that. But why have a dance--with the girls present--in which you are declaring the men the
gatekeepers and decision makers about their daughter's bodies.

This is way creepy and I worry more about sexual abuse and incest with people like this. Fathers
should not be so consumed with their daughters bodies and sex lives--that they attend an event
that is centered around those issues. Boundaries!

One in for girls is molested by the age of 18--usually by a father, stepfather, grandfather or other
close relative. I'd bet any amount of money that the statistics are even higher within this group.