Reply #55: Has anyone asked those black men why they're not marrying black women? [View All]

[TexasObserver]

Among those 22%, it would be instructive to ask. I don't know what the reasons would be if one used sound polling, but I know what I've heard black men say who have married non black women. Some feel that too many black women have a hard edge that they aim at black men, and it is a turn off. It's like having some disapproving mother or grandmother, always telling them they don't measure up. That's anecdotal, but I've heard it repeatedly over the years. I've also had black women tell me that black women are sometimes too hard on black men and run them off scolding them like they're a child.

It's certainly more culturally acceptable in the black community for black men to date non blacks, than black women. That's a factor in the lack of black husbands for black women. That practice increases the odds for men and decreases the odds for women marrying a non black person.