Reply #222: It has nothing to do with 'making a decision' [View All]

[AnArmyVeteran]

Perhaps you were able to do so in your life, and if so, I am very happy for you. Rape or sexual abuse as a child wounds one's very spirit. Yes, a person can live their lives and function, but deep within their wounded little child is still crying out in pain. It never goes away. Through normal times in one's life that voice within can seem silent, but it is always just a moment away ready to surface especially in times of doubt, uncertainty, loneliness, fear or loss.

People can 'act strong' on the surface and I'm sure some are able to never have to revisit their inner child. But those are the fortunate ones. The trail of victims is a long one and sometimes people have their spirits so destroyed they are unable to even go on. I'm am very happy you have been fortunate enough to be able to 'move on' and live a full and happy life, but always know there are many others who never overcome their horrible experiences, especially when the abuse is from someone who was trusted.

Abuse of one's spirit can shape a person's entire life, leaving them always wondering who they would or could have been if not for the deep violation to their soul. Unfortunately, humans aren't equipped with a switch to turn their emotions off or on. If we did there wouldn't be any need for millions of therapists or hospitals who treat the huge number of victims. No one 'chooses' to be a victim, just as they are not able to 'choose' to be happy and at peace, especially when they are living their lives dominated by fear, guilt, shame, chaos and anger from being so intimately violated.

I am very glad you were able to overcome your abuse and are leading a peaceful and happy life.

I wish you the very best...