cynatnite
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:43 PM
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Poll question: Who would you discuss your end of life wishes with? |
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Edited on Thu Mar-24-05 08:11 PM by cynatnite
I was speaking with my mother today and she told me that her and my stepdad (married for over 20 years) never spoke to either of their parents about what they wanted should they ever be in such a position similar to Mrs. Schiavo.
I realized I had never spoke to my husband's parents and he has never said anything to mine.
It now makes perfect sense that Mrs. Schiavo never said anything to her parents, but did to her husband.
Anyone else?
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:45 PM
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500+ members of congress.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:49 PM
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2. After this nightmare fiasco?......... |
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....I am telling everyone.
The last thing I want is the people I care about to tear each other up if anything ever happened to me.
They all know that I will come back to haunt them anyway :)
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:50 PM
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...but I have also told my children (all adults) if they ever left me in a state like this, I would come back and haunt them for eternity. I think they got the picture.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:52 PM
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After this my mother knows, my kids know and anyone else that cares to listen. My grandmother is a bush supporter, but she's also a tell it like it is kind of woman and at times you'd think she was a dem. Anyway, she threatened to haunt anyone who did this to her. I really believe she would.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:54 PM
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5. Other -- you should have included "one's children" in your poll. |
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My parents are in their late 70's, chances are I'll outlive them. I HAVE made my wishes known to my sons and my sisters, since I no longer have a living partner (he died 4 1/2 years ago) to share them with.
This Sunday my whole family will be getting together for Easter dinner. My sisters and I have agreed to make sure that "living wills" for all of us will be part of the family conversation that day.
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:01 PM
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11. Good point. I should have. n/t |
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:05 PM
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12. Your edit time hasn't expired yet -- you can still add that option. (n/t) |
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:55 PM
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6. The moral of this story is...GET A LIVING WILL eom |
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:56 PM
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7. My bro in law. He has the balls to pull the plug and not feel bad. |
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He's a neurologist, but I am not interested in his medical knowledge. I am interested in his experience, since he is involved in this sort of decision all the time.
My mom couldn't bring herself to put the cat down. My wife is similarly unreliable.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:58 PM
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8. I've thought about posting them on the Internet. |
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Make sure nobody is mistaken about my wishes.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:59 PM
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I've told my mother repeatedly that I don't want to be kept alive artificially. I just filled out the paperwork for a durable power of attorney today and I'm waiting until Monday to get it witnessed and notarized at my bank.
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Thu Mar-24-05 07:59 PM
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10. I don't have a spouse |
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But, my parents, close friends and co-workers all know how I feel.
I've had this discussion with my parents on the eve of some minor surgery. My dad doesn't think he could "pull the plug," but my mom could.
I'll be getting a living will shortly, so it's written down, with my mom as my durable power of attorney.
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:08 PM
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13. My best friend..I have discussed my desires with all family members, but |
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I will grant the power of attorney to my best friend of 25 years. I know my 86 yr-old mother won't be around. My sister and brother-in-law and my adult son will have copies of my living will, but I want a non-relative to make the calls for me. Oh, I've been single for the last 32 years.
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:14 PM
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15. My spouse couldn't handle it. Wouldn't put that on the kids. |
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Edited on Thu Mar-24-05 08:14 PM by sfexpat2000
Guess I'll email Skinner or EarlG. (Elad already is heir to the cats) :eyes:
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:28 PM
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16. If I left my end of life decisions up to the public...wow, not good |
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I choose to put it in writing. If my husband decided to have a midlife crisis later in our relationship, I'd SURELY NOT want HIM making decisions for me..(and visa versa I'm sure)
The lawyers for living wills are lining up....($$$$$) Go document your wishes before it's too late :eyes:
There is a little thing that bugs me that no one has thought about, not that I've seen. It is this: That couple, the Schiavos were not married all that long. Young people will say the dumbest things about what they THINK they want IF they were in such and such a condition...like while sitting in front of TV or something like that. Not at all considering what they'd really feel if they were say simply physically disabled. It NEEDS to be put into writing.
IF this couple had been married for 20 30 40 50 years in a committed relationship (especially, free of domestic abuse), I'd say the spouse holds much more credibility and would pretty much KNOW what the other wanted.
In a short relationship like this one, and with such a drastic split between the parents and the son in law regarding the woman's end of life wishes....I say whoa..hold the horses...something smells fishy.
I would fight tooth and nail for my young daughter if I didn't like her husband, or suspected he wasn't doing the right thing by her. I DO have a son n law that is a total JERK. Sociopath is more like it. He mentally and physically abused my daughter. He lied through his teeth to us when asking for her hand in marriage. Everything he proposed in terms of caring for her was a lie. He laid around the house, only taking odd jobs, sent her down to the welfare office to beg for relief. Spent a good portion of his time getting drunk. Lived next door to his mommy giving her all sorts of support while refusing to lift a finger to help my daughter and the kids.
She was committed to making her marriage work but I could see she was sinking into depression--we stayed out of it but told her she was welcome to come home and start over. She had two children that her husband DIDN'T WANT. Today, the bastard has stolen her children, won't let us see them, and calls her a surrogate for his "seed". She nearly lost her mind over his abusiveness.
She is a responsible lovable human being. She took care of him when he was ill with some sort of military related jungle rot. If SHE had become disabled and not able to work, that asshat would leave her or commit her or whatever he could do to "get out" of his responsibility to her--except he'd keep his unwanted children so he didn't have to pay child support :grr:
It's a long story but you get the picture. WE want that asshole to drop dead. I wonder what the Schindler family thinks of their son in law?????
If these two family members were on good terms, don't you think the family would be agreeing with the husband and/or visa versa???
The husband dragging this on for years and years seems suspicious to me. It is typical of what my former son n law would do. He cannot accept defeat no matter the cost and especially if he would GAIN in terms of financial benefits. His ego is too fragile to "let it go".
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:31 PM
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17. My spouse. My chosen life partner. |
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Although with the current climate, it might not be a bad idea to have my wishes tattoo'ed on my ass.
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:58 PM
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19. Truth in advertising. I love it! n/t |
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Thu Mar-24-05 08:31 PM
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18. Other: All of the above |
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and everyone who will fucking listen!!
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