Not_Giving_Up
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:56 PM
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Is it just me, or is anyone else out there married /hooked up with |
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someone who has the mentality of a teenager? My husband is off tonight (from his pizza delivery job!) and is blaring video games on the TV in the living room...Oh, and he sleeps more hours than he's awake, doesn't clean up after himself, the list goes on.
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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1. Then why are you still with this person? |
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You need to get him to be more productive with his life and not just for your sake.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:04 PM
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I can't afford daycare for two kids AND pay the rent, lights, food, etc.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:06 PM
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11. So you need him for financial reasons? |
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Come on, you could find someone better.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:08 PM
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13. There's also the issue of two kids |
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One with ADHD and high functioning autism...sometimes has violent rages (yes, that's being worked on), but the kid is almost as big as I am, and I need help dealing with that.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:22 PM
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23. You're in a tough situation |
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My boyfriend has custody of his nephew, who is autistic. Luckily, he's a mild-mannered kids who is just hyper active at times. So far, no violence.
I guess you have to do what you have to do and if this means keeping this man in your life then you have to deal with some of his flaws.
The best to you.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:33 PM
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31. Also, my kiddo does not function well at daycare |
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Tried it before, much too unstructured. I've given this thought, and I'd have to find somebody to come to my house to sit my kiddos. Like I can afford this!
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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I have the mentality of a teenager. |
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Oh wait, I am a teenager. That explains a lot. :silly:
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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2. You have my condolences. |
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I'm not, but I will give you a hug. :hug:
If I can ask, what attracted you to him?
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:06 PM
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being yound and blind....12 years later, I'm no longer either
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:58 PM
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:05 PM
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9. Saw that and voted! n/t |
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:58 PM
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4. No.. I don't have this problem with my spouse. |
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Tue Nov-23-04 08:59 PM
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5. That's how my husband became my ex-husband |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:00 PM
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:03 PM
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7. He just turned 35! n/t |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:11 PM
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16. Get a lawyer tomorrow |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:19 PM
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21. I can't afford one, or I would have already |
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Oh, but I don't qualify for legal aide either, I make too much money (WHERE?????????)
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:24 PM
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25. Call the local Bar Association |
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They'll help you find one you can afford.
There are payment schedules, plus he'll have to contribute to your legal fees. (That's HIS problem, by the way.)
It'll be financially cheaper for you in the long run, believe me.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:30 PM
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29. I'll try to make the call from work tomorrow, |
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if I get a chance, when the bosses aren't around. I tried once before, but didn't have any luck.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:08 PM
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12. My dh is also going on 35 |
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and LOVES him some Halo 2. But I don't mind...it beats some of the other "hobbies" he could have!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:10 PM
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14. I wouldn't mind the video games, but |
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on the nights that he's off I have to make a reservation to watch TV...plus, it's LOUD...street racing games VRROOOOOOOOM, VRROOOOOOOM, SQUEAL!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:18 PM
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19. Sounds like he's got ADD too |
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Probably can't tear himself away from the game, right?
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:32 PM
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30. Oh yeah, and the constant |
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Screamed expletives every time he wrecks or messes up...those are lovely as well. Don't walk in fron of the tv, he's racing (when is he not??). Oh, when he's not, he's sleeping (on the couch, his choice). SHHHHH! Don't wake him up or he'll be grumpy!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:10 PM
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15. Has he always been in the food delivery service or is this new? |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:13 PM
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When we first met he had his own landscape business, and worked at a grocery store as a stocker during the slow season. Then, he was told that he was getting carpal tunnel from machine vibration, sold the lawn equipment, and it's pretty much been pizza delivery since (except for a brief time in construction)...Oh, and then there's the three unemployed and not giving a damn years!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:18 PM
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20. Maybe he's depressed? Kind of sounds it. |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:20 PM
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22. Suspect bi-polar actually |
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But he refuses to take meds or get any help.
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:23 PM
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24. I hope he does, for all of you |
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i'm sorry you're having a rough time.:hug:
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:13 PM
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18. I don't have that problem. |
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My husband loses himself on e-bay quietly!
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:25 PM
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:28 PM
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28. I think so, but I don't LIKE him anymore |
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Tue Nov-23-04 09:27 PM
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^More like a two year old. But he did me the favor of finding a suitable alternate playmate.
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