How old were you when you lost your virginity?

[Guaranteed]

Myself, I'd just turned 18. I still remember the exact date.

By the way, this is my first poll, and I hope I do it right. You guys can help me through it though, right?
Also, I'm 24 years old. Is that old/weird?

[ps1074]

1. we already had this poll a couple of weeks ago

Me - 17

:bounce:

[youngred]

2. My 16th birthday

and what a present it was!


I think it might be growing back though...ugh

[LynneSin]

3. How about a Not Yet

:shrug:

Not that I'm on that list :eyes:

[WoodrowFan]

11. that's because

you're listening to YES to much. try some AC/DC or Aerosmith, that'll do it!

On edit, I misread your post, I thoguht you said you WOULD be on the not yet list. Sorry. Must have been all that Led Zep!!! :spank:

[Cheviot]

4. Umm. I'm sorry but intimacy is a private matter

not to be trivialized in polls. Sexual intimacy is reserved for those who have made a marriage commitment. If you had sex outside of marriage, you ought to be too embarrassed to admit it. That's my opinion.

[ugarte]

5. Why embarrassed?

What's embarrassing about premarital sex?

[youngred]

7. It is for some

not for all.

Don't agree, don't answer the poll :shrug:

[Guaranteed]

8. I'm not embarassed.

:-(

[NewYorkerfromMass]

9. You sure you're on the right site?

Seriously. People do polls here about drugs and all kinds of things and you want to pontificate about "sex outside of marriage"?
I'm willing to bet that 90% of the people here view sex as, among other things, the ultimate expression of love between two people.
And isn't THAT the ultimate institution?...LOVE? :shrug:

[Guaranteed]

14. It's also a jolly good time! n/t

[Mr. McD]

53. Falling in love is the beginning of all wisdom,

all sympathy, all compassion, all art, all religion; and in its larger sense is the one thing in life worth doing."
Elbert Hubbard

[indigo32]

10. I can't get married

I'm a lesbian :o
What with that anyway?

[WoodrowFan]

13. Apparently

According to the RFW, If you get married then my wife and I will get divorced or sumpin like that. Beats me. :shrug:

[greatauntoftriplets]

12. Why should I be embarrassed?

If you think that way, you should probably stay out of the Lounge, it regularly gets raunchy in here.

On edit: The answer to BullGooseLooney's poll is 16 for me.

[LynneSin]

15. WHOA, when did the nostaligia train drop DU back in the 1940's??

First and foremost I respect ANYONE who says it's "None of your Business" when it comes to polls like this. No is forcing anyone to take any of these polls including yourself.

You could have stopped with just your subject line I would have respected your choice. But now you've passed moral judgement on others and that IS my business.

Not only am I not embarassed to tell you and everyone at DU that I lost my virginity at age 17, I wouldn't be embarassed to discuss other matters in regards to my sexual pass (outside of naming names, which is unfair to the other party who wouldn't be here to defend themselves).

Second and even more importantly - some of us are NOT marriage minded. I mean some of us would like to be but can't because of antiquated laws thing that man/woman is the only way to commit to one other for a lifetime (or a few years since 1 in every 2 marriages end in divorce) of love. Also, some of us, including myself, have decided to skip the whole marriage thing because it's not something that fits into my lifetime agenda and something I'm very uncomfortable with.

Please, if you're posting at DU, leave the hypocrisy at the door.

[Cheviot]

26. Hypocrisy?

"Please, if you're posting at DU, leave the hypocrisy at the door.'

I'm not hypocritical. I waited until marriage to have sex. Do you know the definition of hypocrisy? Just wondering.

[LynneSin]

30. no one is judging you that you waited until marriage

I think that's great.

But you were judging us with the following statement:

If you had sex outside of marriage, you ought to be too embarrassed to admit it. That's my opinion.

Why would should any of us be embarassed to admit it? Your point would have been well respected if you just stuck with what you think was the best choice (waiting until you are married) and not pass judgement on those who choose not to.

The words that passed judgement?

You Ought To Be

Maybe you ought to be embarassed for passing judgement on others who made a choice that was different from yours :shrug:

[Cheviot]

34. OK. You can disagree with me

But tell me how I am hypocritical, as you said I was.

[LynneSin]

42. You probably weren't, but the way you worded it came out as such

Like I said earlier. When you had the phrase You Ought To Be you comments came off as very condescending to those of us who do not practice or follow the catholic belief of only having sex after marriage. You didn't sound like one democrat talking to another but something that my mother would say to me like "You ought to be watching your weight" or "You ought to be eating your vegetables". If I told you "You ought to be embarassed for waiting to have sex when you got married" I would expect you to come at with me the hardest amount of criticism you can manage.

I know you probably never meant to judges others, but that word ought came across as very judgemental.

Maybe it's best we let this one go and move on from there. We have all types of folks here at DU with a wide diversity of beliefs. But that's the beauty of the democratic party is that everyone is welcomed here!!!

[mac56]

16. I sense you haven't read many of the threads here.

Again, welcome to DU.

[prolesunited]

20. Are you one of those

Republicans for Deans that I've read about? Just askin' :hi:

[Cheviot]

25. Why would you

assume I am Republican? I'm not. I am a Catholic Democrat. The position of the Catholic Church is the sex is permitted only in the context of married commitment. More than half of all Catholics are Democrat. There is no inconsistency here. Are YOU Republican? Just asking.

[prolesunited]

29. No, as a matter of fact I'm not.

Welcome to DU! :hi: Enjoy your brief stay here. :-)

[Cheviot]

31. Brief

stay? Why? Are you siccing the moderators on me because I agree with my church that sex outside of marriage is wrong? Wow.

[prolesunited]

45. Oh, so sorry

You've been tombstoned. LOL!

And no, it had nothing to do with your views on sex and everything to do with your support of Ann Coulter, disagreement with Franken for picking on poor Rush, insistence that the U.S. should free Cuba from Castro and your assertion that we are a Christian nation.

:nuke:

[Kathy in Cambridge]

46. Thank you, prolesunited

She even managed to disrupt a baseball thread! She condemned the whole Northeast corridor as neanderthal. Imagine disrupting the enmity between Red Sox and Yankee fans so that we ganged up on her for picking on our region!

[prolesunited]

47. Well, that alone

proves she didn't belong here! :P

[TXlib]

37. Yes, it is. And you are free to abstain from the poll.

[THUNDER HANDS]

6. 19

Don't even remember the girl's name.

:(

[LynneSin]

17. and you wonder why you can't get a girl friend

Geez, I can name the entire list for everyone I've been with and you can't remember your first girl.

Magic, we have to work on you if we're to find you a nice girl!!

[WoodrowFan]

18. I don't think

he wants a NICE one. :spank:

[THUNDER HANDS]

19. I can't, honestly

I can remember every single one of them from No. 2 to the most recent one (which would be No. 12 for those keeping score at home).

But the first one I just can't remember. I do remember going to the supermarket with her right before we did it and buying a bottle of gatoraide and also having to purchase Gold Coin condoms.

But everything else is a blur.

[LynneSin]

21. Geez, what did you put in that Gaterade?

there's your first problem!!!

[THUNDER HANDS]

22. lol

Hey, I was a virgin, I thought I needed stamina. I had no idea that sex usually last just a couple of minutes. I thought it was something people did for hours on end.

Then of course, she took full advantage of my ignorance and proceeded to have me orally pleasure her for an hour.

[GOPisEvil]

23. Whoa...TMI!!!

:P

[youngred]

24. and you're complaining because???

:shrug: sounds like a good time to me

[Coventina]

27. ROFL!!!

I don't even care if that story is true or not! You told it masterfully! :D

on edit: So the Gatorade DID come in handy after all!!!!!

[WoodrowFan]

28. as Robin Williams says

"pack a lunch, stay for the day."

[TrogL]

50. A couple of minutes?

I call anything under 45 minutes a panicky rush.

If the back seat is that cramped, get a bigger car.

[stickdog]

32. Are you or were you a Catholic? (NT)

[THUNDER HANDS]

33. I'm half Catholic

My mother is Catholic, my father is Jewish.

Why do you ask?

[stickdog]

57. If you can't remember with whom you lost your viriginity, it's because of

a haze of guilt (hardwired Catholics only) or a haze of drugs and/or alcohol (everybody else).

[dreissig]

40. The Basis For Another Poll

Do your remember the names of all your lovers?

1. All of them

2. Most of them

3. Quite a Few

4. The recent ones

5. Forget 'Em!

[Aristus]

35. 17

My first experience was horrible because I was so scared. I'd been having sexual thoughts since I was eleven, had a powerful sex drive (puberty was a nightmare) and I didn't want to screw things up, so to speak. Well, I did.

It got much better after that, and had some pretty satisfying experiences. My best lover ever has been my wife. We are really tuned in to each other. Life is good.

[supernova]

36. Over 20 for me

I'm a late bloomer, what can I say? :D Also, there just wasn't anybody in H.S. I was that interested in.

It was a few days after xmas with my then b/f at the time. I visited him in DC for a few days. We had been teledating since meeting each other in Europe. It was Ok. He was not the right person, though.

edit: I'm still looking for someone really good! :D

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

38. I OBJECT

:(

[GOPisEvil]

39. My advice - don't be in a hurry...

:-)

[Chovexani]

41. 15 then 19

Lemme 'splain.

15 was the first time I did the deed with a girl. I felt a lot of guilt about it afterwards due to my upbringing, and it ended up breaking up the relationship--she was out and really had her shit together, and I wasn't. In retrospect I was probably too young. I did enjoy myself though, and it was a learning experience. Those issues got worked through, and I made a much better girlfriend to the next girl. :)

I didn't do anything on the het side of the fence until I was 19. The act itself was wonderful, but like many young women (and older women!) I had the misfortune of being madly in love with a jerk. He broke up with me about an hour afterwards, and it devastated me. I've never completely gotten over it.

As for that post upthread, I respect your beliefs but I'm not embarrassed about anything I've done sexually (well except that one time I slept with a Republican. :spank:). There's no shame in my game. 'Course I belong to what is basically a fertility religion, so go figure. :)

[arwalden]

43. Which Time? I Think I Lost My Virginity TWICE.

[TrogL]

51. which orifice

I know, "don't start".

[arwalden]

52. No... Not *THA-A-AT*... Once With A Girl, Once With A Boy...

Which one counts?

-- Allen

[scarlet_owl]

44. Sadly, thirteen.

It was one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

[Cat Atomic]

48. First kiss, first trip to 2nd base, first homerun, all in the same night.

It was a very surprising day. Oh- 17.

[Richardo]

49. I didn't LOSE it so much as DISCARD it...

:D

[arwalden]

54. Excellent Wording... May I Borrow That Phrase Sometime?

-- Allen

[Richardo]

55. Thank you, Allen - It's one my few originals...

...so I have the authority to tell you to use it all you want. If it catches on, I'm sure we can work out some kind of royalty deal. :-)

[U2Fanatic]

56. I went with over 20

because I'm still a virgin and I turn 21 in 2 months, and I don't even have a boyfriend at the moment, so yeah....it's going to be over 20.