The Thread For Those Who Miss Their Mothers

[SPKrazy]

not to make it a tear jerker or anything unless you want to.

I wish I had a scanner

I have pictures of my mother.

She lived from 1934-1985 and was 71 years old at the time of her death from ovarian cancer.

She was married 50 years.

She had one grandchild, my son of whom she adored.

She loved the mountains and lived in Estes Park at the time of her death.

She could see the mountains bordering Rocky Mountain National Park from her bedroom window and that was the view that she took her last breath being able to see.

I was able to spend quite a bit of time with her during her last few years. I will say thanks to my stbx wife for the time that we took to go to see her and took our son to see her. It was kind of her to not ever say we can't do that or we haven't gotten to do other things when it came down to making the plans to go.

I remember my mother throughout the time I knew her, from 1961-2005, she was a creative person who was always looking for ways to help people in some way. She was a feminist, a liberal, and a Democrat. She abhorred the shrub. She taught English to foreign students at the college level (ESL) for many years. She had a masters degree in linguistics and English. Between my father the Journalism professor and my mother the English teacher, I didn't have a chance. If I said "ain't" (and no I didn't grow up in Arkansas or the south and people in Utah said ain't too) I was immediately corrected :rofl:

I'm missing you tonight mom. You've been on my mind a lot lately and I miss you.

Mom of SPK

RIP

[bicentennial_baby]

1. I don't qualify technically, but...

I miss my who my Mom was before she got so sick. A lot. Every moment of every day.

I made her happy today. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

3. That counts *hugs* Glad you had a good day with her today!

[SPKrazy]

6. You always count bi baby

whether technically or not, you count with me :hug:

I know you miss the mom before she got sick. I'm glad you made her happy today. I bet you make her happy more than you know.

:hug:
:hi:

[GreenPartyVoter]

2. You can see my mom to the left there. She was teh awesum! A special ed teacher, and very

gifted in the artistic sense. She was boisterous and playful and a lot of fun. She loved the blues. She took in stray animals (cats mostly) and kids (of the unofficial foster kind). She was a feminist and very left-leaning. I'd like to think she's been haunting Dubya since she's been gone from this plane. Lord knows she thought he deserved all that and more.

:toast:

[SPKrazy]

4. How cool!

Our left leaning moms are maybe haunting all the right wing things :P

:hi:

:hug:

your mother was very nice looking, I'd always wondered who your avvie was.

[GreenPartyVoter]

11. She had the coolest turquoise eyes with gold flecks. That was her college senior photo which

maybe wouldn't have happened had she actually taken off for Haight-Ashbury. LOL (She was an art major and it sounded like a cool place to be, but she was engaged to my dad so relocating out there wasn't going to work while he was tied to Boston/North-Eastern. So she had a senior portrait after all. :D )

[SPKrazy]

21. Wow, pretty color eyes

I bet they were something to look at too :hi:

:hug:

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

5. My Mom & me, a long time ago.

She passed away in December of 2004 at the age of 84. I miss her all the time.

[SPKrazy]

7. I bet, that's such a sweet picture

:hi:

thanks for posting that

:hug:

I bet you do miss her she looks like she was a neat lady.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

13. Just found another one -- sailing with my Mom in 1966.

This thread is making me get all sniffly.

[SPKrazy]

20. Awww...

:hug:

that's a neat picture though...

[erinlough]

8. My mom in her high school graduation photo

She was our strength.
She was my constant security and my constant teacher.
She lived a worthy and good life and she was loved and respected by everyone in our family and by her friends.


She was also the most avid Democrat I have ever known and she would make mincemeat out of anyone who tried to argue with her. Up to the day of her death she kept up with the news and detested George Bush.

RIP Mom, It seems like forever and it was only a year ago. I miss you every day.

[SPKrazy]

9. Sounds like she was super cool

and a very pretty woman too.

:hug:

thanks for sharing the picture.

[GreenPartyVoter]

12. She was also very pretty!

[Critters2]

10. I miss mine.

She died at the age of 73, three years ago (July 27). She had a brain tumor, and wasn't really herself for the last 7 months of her life. She hated Mother's Day, thought it was saccharin and sentimental and silly, and couldn't understand why women wanted to be fussed over on one day a year.

She was strong, and smart and independent and built a community of other strong, interesting women around her--and taught me to be one.

She was also the love of my father's life. They were married 50 years and 7 months. Celebrated their 50th Anniversary in the hospital, just after her surgery. She was very confused, probably not aware of her anniversary. But my dad bought her 2 dozen red roses and sat holding her hand all day. And gazing at her like a lovesick teenager.

She always told me it didn't bother her that she didn't have grandchildren, but it bothered me. She loved my pets, though, and proudly wore her "Ask me about my granddog" sweatshirt. She was also proud of my work, and that of my siblings. And loved her own pets with a wonderful, quiet tenderness.

She worked for years as the membership secretary at the YMCA, and knew everyone in town. And everyone liked her. After retiring, she was a docent at the local historical society museum. She had a great group of friends there, who enjoyed one another's company--called themselves "The Hysterical Society".
They did a presentation together at her funeral.

I loved my mom's company. She'd visit me two or three weeks a year. We'd eat out and go to LOTS of movies. I'm amazed at how often there'll be some movie on TV, and I'll think "I saw that with Mom." Her favorite movie of all time was "O Brother, Where Art Thou?", because she had a killer crush on George Clooney, and was proud that he, like she, was from Kentucky. The last movie we saw together was "National Treasure".

Everyone tells me I look like her. I'm proud of that, but more proud when they tell me I smile like her, have integrity like her, stand up for what I believe in like her.

She was a great woman. I miss her.

[SPKrazy]

15. Sounds like a great woman

my mother had some episodes that were really never explained... just the fragile system, hypoxia or even possibly an anoxic hit somewhere along the line along with liver mets and etc. Maybe brain mets. She ended up in the hospital 2 or 3 times confused, delirious, and it was interesting talking to her about it. She had this delusion that she was in a "Chinese prison camp" and it was very vivid to her and hard for her to shake the idea that it really hadn't happened because she had a memory of it after that.

My mother told me to read "The Kite Runner", dunno why, but she thought it was what my sister and I needed. She was pretty out of it by that time and would have lucid moments and it was interesting to wonder where she was, who she was seeing etc. in the last days of her life. Because there were people she saw there that we didn't, but I have my own ideas about that.

Anyway didn't mean to ramble on

thanks for posting and I'm glad you shared that with us.

:hug:

[femmocrat]

14. Thanks for starting this thread, SPK.

This is my first Mother's Day without my mom. It feels strange... not buying her a gift, not taking her out for lunch tomorrow.

:cry:

Your mom sounds like a great lady.

[SPKrazy]

16. ...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

its hard.

I was looking at cards with my son and it made me sad. I thought about going out to get a gift with him and I realized I thought of getting my mom a gift and went wow what am I thinking?

sorry about your loss I bet your mother was great too.

[femmocrat]

17. Thanks...

I deliberately avoided the mall and the Hallmark store in recent weeks.

Yes, she was an incredible woman and I miss her every day. We are dealing with disposing of her belongings now. Tough, really tough.

She also loved Colorado. She and my dad went there on their honeymoon. :)

[SPKrazy]

22. Mine lived there the first summer after they married, In Estes Park

no less

my dad worked for their paper that summer.

My mother was always in love with the place after that.

:)

[RFKHumphreyObama]

18. Thanks for this thread SPK

This is the first Mother's Day without my mother. May used to be a special month for us, now it will be a painful month -at least in the short term. My mother's birthday usually would be approximately a week before Mother's Day. Then last year, my mother also passed away in the month of May.

She was born in Southeast Asia and spent the first 26 years of her life there before going to study in Wales and England. She subsequently returned home to SE Asia and she and my dad raised our family there until we all moved to Australia in 1991. She initially disliked coming to Australia because she missed her friends and family and she missed the idyllic lifestyle that she had enjoyed in SE Asia but she made the sacrifice out of the love she had for her children and the desire she had for them to receive the best in education. Eventually she began to enjoy life in Australia and, shortly before she became ill, she talked about taking out citizenship one day.

She was kind, caring, compassionate, funny understanding and loving and she adored her children more than anything in the world. With just one look from her, you could feel like you were the most special and precious person in the world -she expressed more love in her face than I could ever imagine is possible in a person. She made huge sacrifices in her life for us which I will always appreciate and value beyond what words could ever convey. She was always there for us in many ways -some ways that I am now just beginning to appreciate.

She was very strong-willed and, while this frequently led to disagreements and clashes with her on some issues, I always admired and respected her for it. Like many of the other mothers here, she was a feminist and a liberal (she became even more liberal toward the end of her life) and passionately abhorred our right wing government. She was a fantastic cook who could produce mouth-watering dishes just from throwing unusual combinations together in trial and error.

She died way too young from an illness that she defied the odds to get. She fought the illness valiantly until the very end. I was fortunate enough to be able to spend the last month of her life with her, even though she was overseas seeking treatment. I'm sad that she'll never get to see me succeed in life or that she'll never see her grandchildren -she loved kids so much and the feeling was mutual and she always had such a great rapport with kids

I miss ehr immensely and still dream about her almost every night and think about her every day. She was a beautiful, wonderful woman and a first-class mother in ways that I could never adequately express. I love her and I miss her and I always will

[SPKrazy]

19. awww....

:hug: :hug:


sounds like such a neat lady

May is full of dates... my mother's birthday, my parents anniversary, and Mother's day.

So I'm sorry for your loss, and thanks for sharing about her.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

25. Thanks SPK

I greatly value and appreciate your kind words about my mother and the hugs

I'm so sorry about your mother as well. She sounds like a beautiful, wonderful, intelligent woman and she raised a son like you and that is a glowing testament to her character and her success as a mother. I'm glad she got to see and spend time with her grandson and to see you as a father. Your words are a glowing tribute to her and how much you love and miss her and the same is true of everyone else who posted on this thread:hug: :hug: :hug:

[shanine]

23. Beautiful

and touching . . .



:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

26. Thanks Shanine!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

:hi:

[lost-in-nj]

24. I miss mine to....

this is the 3rd mothers day with out her
My mom never knew how to drive even though we tried to teach her. She was a typical SAHM, did all the things that a sahm does and counted on my Dad for everything
After my dad got sick and died my mom came into herself.... She became more independent and daring. She really grew her wings in 1985 when my Uncle and her took a cross country trip to visit cousins in Washington. She went out there every year after that. She was loving, kind and giving.
The woman was made of steel. She lost her husband (never remarried or dated) her 2 sons and her brother. She kept going...

Thanks SPK for letting us remember :hug:


lost

[SPKrazy]

27. Sounds like a tough

and caring person.

thanks for sharing that about your mother with us, she went through a lot and it sounds like she was well loved.

:hug:

[BuelahWitch]

28. I miss my mother and my Noni (Grandma)

Both of them raised me. Noni will be gone 30 years on June 18. :cry:

[SPKrazy]

29. ...

:hug: :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

30. I miss my mother's laugh.

I miss the bear hugs.
I miss her cooking.
I miss her a lot.

Her community misses a tireless voice for low income people.
Her neighbors miss her spunky, take no prisoners retorts to snooty people.
The food bank misses her volunteer work.
The hospital misses her hand knitted caps for preemies and cancer patients.

When her children gather, we cook, we laugh, and we hug each other. We don't miss her so much then.

[SPKrazy]

35. That's great that you can gather with your siblings

and you don't miss her so much.

Right now I miss my sister who is in Colorado and my dad who is there as well. (No, no one in my family is from Colorado they all just moved there and left me here :( )

thanks for sharing that

[Gormy Cuss]

45. I don't get to see my sibs often.

I'm on the wrong coast. But it's always great when we do get together.

[SPKrazy]

46. That's right, you switched coasts

so I bet it is great to get together

:hi:

[sazemisery]

31. My mom died May 2nd

I miss her.

[BuelahWitch]

32. I'm sorry

This must be a tough day for you. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

36. I'm very sorry...

I am assuming you mean this May 2 as well.

I'm very sorry for your loss

I bet you do miss her...

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Breeze54]

43. My condolences, sazemisery...

This must be a tough day for you... :hug:

[Spacemom]

33. My Mom

Diane


1950-2005. I lost her to ovarian cancer on June 15, 2005.

She was a funny, kind, wonderful person. I miss her immensely.

Happy Mother's Day, mom.

[SPKrazy]

37. Ovarian Cancer is such a bastard!

I'm sorry for your loss, she died only a few months before my mother did.

Thanks for sharing

and happy mother's day to all moms today.

[ashling]

34. My mom was in the Red Cross in Myanmar (they called it

Burma back then) She died of Cancer in 1973. Wonderful mom - Wonderful person

[SPKrazy]

38. She had very beautiful eyes and very intense eyes

Those are wonderful pictures and thank you for posting them...

:hug:

[ashling]

48. Thanks

I will always miss her, she was a very special person.

[Midlodemocrat]

39. I wrote this two years ago on Mother's Day and Skinner put it on the Home Page.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5151773

I still miss her every day.

[SPKrazy]

40. Thats beautiful Midlo

Thanks 4 sharing that again. :hug:

[fizzgig]

41. hugs for you, my friend

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

42. And hugs back

my friend :hug: :loveya:

[Breeze54]

44. *** HUGS ***

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

47. to you too!

:hug:

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