Single female wanted for lasting relationship:

[SmileyBoy]

Only qualifications are that you must be of the species Homo Sapiens, and you must be currently alive.

Those are my standards. I'll take anyone. Female? Human? Breathing? Drop me a line.

But really, sorry for the bother everyone. I guess tonight this whole "I'm gonna remain a lonely bitter virgin the rest of my entire life" thing has started to sink in. The feeling has ebbed and flowed over the past 8 or 9 years or so, but when it ebbs, it really can feel like an emotional boulder has just fallen from a cliff and crushed you into little bitty pieces.

God, I need a girlfriend. I'm almost 22 years old. I'm pathetic.

[gyopsy]

1. I feel for you

I'm 19 and in the same position. I've always been a little "different" from my peers and this manifests itself in the fact that I have a very hard time in establishing any normal relationships with members of the opposite sex.

Good luck to you. I guess that's all I can say.

[Sandpiper]

2. Dude, get some perspective

You're only 22 for crying out loud! And before you dismiss this as old person talk, I'm only 27.

As one who's been in your shoes, the best advice I can give you is, try but don't try too hard. Desperation is a major turnoff, and women can smell it like a shark can smell blood in the water.

Being happy and confident (or at least convincingly faking it) will make you infinitely more attractive desirable as relationship material.

Keep fighting the good fight. It'll work out for you.

[Fenris]

3. As a 20 yr old non-virgin

I can say that in retrospect I am undecided as to whether or not I regret having sex. I lost my virginity to a girl I truly loved, but now, with my heart broken, I feel like I made a mistake. I know a lot of people around here will tell you that's crap, but to me, it's bothersome.

My point is that losing one's virginity is mental. It is only important in the capacity that you feel it is. Yes, your body desires to procreate. But the importance placed on when you first commit the act is a blight on our culture. Some people have sex at 13, some at 18, some at 30, and some never have sex at all. It doesn't really matter. Some people (like me, an atheist and nonbeliever in absolute truth or morality) would prefer to share the experience with someone they loved rather than someone they just wanted to fuck (vulgarity on purpose).

It's a double-edged sword. I've actually had a lot of sex (albeit with one person), but I understand now what a godsend and a curse sex is.

Girls your age a shallow and can be at times nauseating to be around. I suggest looking for someone a bit older, someone secure with who they are and well-adjusted.

And in the meantime, listen to Morrissey and be productive. There is someone out there for you. Stretch out and wait. That isn't to say don't try. Just take it easy, and be yourself.

[everythingsxen]

4. *yawn*

Oh I'm sorry was I yawning at you?

Yeah see I did the whole lonely bitter virign bit for a while too..

Like til I was 27.

I was waiting for true love. On my up days I held my head high and knew that I was better than my friends because I wasn't having cheap meaningless sex with different people night after night...

On my down days I felt I was pathetic idiot who could never be loved.

Fortunately good things come to those who wait. I met my SO right here on DU and I have been happily head over heels in love with her.

Just keep your head up high my friend. If you believe it will happen.. it will happen.

[Mass_Liberal]

7. I wish I could have

"cheap, meaningless sex with different people night after night.

[ET Awful]

8. Hell, it doesn't even need to be night after night :)

I'd settle for just one :)

[Gore1FL]

5. Marriage will cure that

I wanted a life-long companion, found a girl, married her, divorced, and now I have no desire to get involved.

There is prbably a cheaper way of accomplishing this, but this method worked for me.

[roguevalley]

6. 22. what a great age to worry about things. don't work so hard at life.

it will find you. There.

Huggies,

RV

[Gore1FL]

11. was that intended for me?

I am 38 and have given up -- life as a single is soooo muuch better than married life.

I just didn't realize this until I subjected myself to marriage.

Now I know, and the insecurities of not being with someone that used to haunt me pre-marriage no longer exist.

Marriage to me was like the Christmas gift that you really really wanted, and when Christmas came, you opened the box, and it was nothing like you thought it would be.

[Rhiannon12866]

9. I'm older than you are, or else I would drop you a line

Don't give up hope. Do you imagine how many young women are out there, just hoping for a guy like you?! They have TV reality shows on this, for God's sake. Take a deep breath, look around, and take your time. I promise, what you want can happen for you. It just takes time and some patience.:-)

[Crunchy Frog]

10. You don't even want to know how long

I've been a lonely virgin. Hint, I'm way to old for you.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

12. I am 23 years old and without a girlfriend -never had one

I know exactly how I feel -it gets very depressing at times. Especially after witnessing my sister's marriage at the conclusion of last year -she met her SO when she was 19 and he was her first serious boyfriend. I've been very depresed about it lately

[Loonman]

13. Enjoy life!

Stay Single!