Simply overwhelmed.

[rumpel]

You know, I feel wonderful reading all the ascension masters input, astro readings and what not. I truly felt great and felt I can move forward towards what I envision - moving on...
I have been transversing a tightrope of a 3D existence for so many years, I worked hard on my inner self and kept positive to keep me going...

Then, they discharge my mother to me. She can not even turn in her bed or sit up in bed on her own. Furthermore, I probably posted before, she is Ms Negative Energy exemplified. She acts the victim, the small child, lying to justify things no one even judged or questioned. She is completely self absorbed and is oblivious, even though she is in the know of much serious matters transpiring at this time, affecting the entire family. It is not that she is not lucid, I suspect there are some serious changes or problems in her cognitive functions. Or was it always like this and I just did not see, or is it simply more pronounced? I now know she probably always had GAD, general anxiety disorder, but she probably also has control issues coupled with emotional blackmail as a tool.

I did however also realize, just a few days ago, about the psychic attacks: it may not be my ex after all, but my own mother, just because she is so negative, always has been, over the years! In relation to my project, she said, we will lose the house, when it was even remote at the time. I was working with an investor group that wanted to actually give me 1/3 more than I requested. All along, she has been making basically negative affirmations in everything that I did.

I now see this negative energy, and I can't be close to that, not now, it drags me down. I now have possibilities to enter into major deals and it absolutely scatters my energy field, and I get so angry that she is not making any effort herself to even reach for her glasses, and it takes a lot to get me angry. It is almost as Karen talks about, not being able to tolerate lower vibrations. I do not like being angry - I don't like to vibrate that way.

But she is my mother! It has only been a little over 2 days since I picked her up. I don't think I can do it. Not only does she need a caretaker, she needs physical and mental therapy. She calls me every few moments. I already have a bad neck. And there is a lot of drama. I was supposed to go to a deposition today. That, turned into another anxiety attack for her. While I will be gone, who is going to take care of her, that was her anxiety.

Some time ago, Cassie talked about karmic stuff between my mother and me in my charts. She is absolutely right.
It upsets me that she is letting go, and at the same time makes me feel bad. i.e she picks up the phone, calls me and pretends she can not hear what I answer and hangs up, just to make me go to her room, for the umpitest time. And all she is saying is "what are you doing right now", starts crying that she just wants to be with me, when in fact she either reads or is watching tv and there is no conversation at all when I do sit with her....and I have so much else to do.
I feel terrible that I can not feel compassionate, loving and caring towards her.

I have to figure out what I have to do next to get a handle on this...

:(

[LiberalEsto]

1. Wow, sorry to hear this

It sounds like a heavy load you're carrying.
Is there a local or county commission on aging that you can call?
They might have someone who can offer suggestions about getting a part-time aide who can take the burden off you while you work. Maybe a social worker can evaluate her to see what can be done to help you with her care.

Good luck and keep us posted!
LibE

[I Have A Dream]

2. I was thinking the same thing. She definitely needs help. nt

[rumpel]

7. I checked and asked an online referral service for info

when I was told she is going to be discharged. These companies pretty much are private pay they run between $15 and $21/hr. The Medicaid co-pay is more than half her widows pension, so unless I can generate tons of income we can not survive. When I sign her up for Medicare A & B next week, all her remaining monthly income will be going towards A & B. (She has to pay into it because she never worked here) and Medicare will not kick in until July.

The social worker from the nursing home is supposed to call me with rehab possibilities...

there she is again...calling

[Shallah Kali]

10. A few links to that might help you find more assitance than you are getting.

National Agency on Aging http://www.aoa.gov/eldfam/eldfam.asp

NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF STATE UNITS ON AGING http://www.nasua.org/SUAMembers.cfm

Eldercare Locator - to look up community resources http://www.eldercare.gov/Eldercare/Public/Home.asp

[rumpel]

12. thanks

I check it out.

:hi:

[SeattleGirl]

3. Oh dear.

Even if she wasn't this negative, that's an enormous burden to handle all by yourself.

I agree that you need to call places, and find out what assistance is available to you, to help in the care of your mother. I think if you had some help, the negativity from your mom might not have as big an impact on you, and would give you some breathing room, literally and figuratively.

Another thing you might do is connect with like-minded people (people like you, I mean). This would help, I think, in shoring up the positive in you, and might also build a stronger wall of protection around you, where you could still do the things you need to do for your mother, but you wouldn't get so sucked into the negativity.

My best to you. :hug:

[crispini]

4. What everyone else said.

- Get help from outside sources.
- Do a shielding visualization twice a day, morning and night. If you want me to I will write one out for you.
- When she starts up with the negativity, visualize that negativity bouncing off your shield. Practice feeling warm and protected and tuning her energy out.
- With the phone calls, etc., set boundaries. For example, take calls twice a day and no more. Tell her this and keep telling her this.

Good luck. :hug: Don't hesitate to post here and talk to us.

[rumpel]

8. than you

my energies get so scattered, and I get so nervous that I have to retreat somewhere to create a shield.
The phone call, actually is like an intercom, she has to tell me when nature calls...I will try to set boundaries on all else, though.

thanks:hug:

[Shallah Kali]

14. shield the intercom/phone itself. Ask for blessings, send it light, charge it like you would a cryst

crystal. I feel that just about anything can be charged with intention it's just that crystals are *much* more potent at holding the energy and the programming. I charge my phones so I don't get whammied by a call from someone in a state. I want to be compassionate but I am pretty useless to help if I slip into the same emotional whirlwind they are stuck in.

[rumpel]

20. ah, yes, negative energies are very powerful

it seems.

I may try this. About the phone...there was more today - maybe I will post tomorrow. I almost fainted at what she said and did.

:crazy:

[Shallah Kali]

25. Oh Rumpel! {{{HUG}}} Are Angels in your spiritual system? If so read this

This is from Shamballa Reiki but works for anyone no attunement needed.

Say "Archangel Michael please give me a pillar of light to protect me from all harm". That's it BOOM! instant shield that last about 24 hrs.

Archangel Michael sometimes also lets me ask for them for objects so if you are OK with this ask for one for the intercom system.

It sounds like she is pulling out all the stops :( Remember it's not your fault you are doing the best that you can so try not to take hurtful words to heart. It is probably the only way she feels she can get some control of her situation.

[LaurenG]

5. We are going through something similar with my mom

She is still ambulatory though. My sister lives with us now as well and although she (my sister) is physically in pain most of the time, she manages to take care of my mom. It is a huge job for three of us, I can't imagine how you have done so well all by yourself. When I get home from work, my sister disappears and then we take over, which is still very stressful.

I hope you realize what a terrific job you have done and then try to get some help as soon as possible. Karma or not, you deserve to have a life. I have other thoughts about this but suffice it to say, you deserve a medal! :hug: and tons of good positive vibes to you!

[rumpel]

9. thanks OB

cherish it while she is ambulatory.

You know all this time the hospital, then the nursing home, my brother when he flew in from overseas, my kids and I we have been telling her she has to move, she has to start working on it, but for some reason, she got into this I am victim, I am very ill mentality, she did not even try and would get hysterical and accused the staff at the nursing home of torture.
She just wanted to lie there and was feeling sorry for herself and got very angry saying that I should feel sorry for her, instead of scolding her. It's been like "huh?".

Now her feet, and I suspect her one knee has contracture - it will take months until they are streched enough for her to be able to practice standing and walking. It is sooo true, that we create our own illnesses in our head.

[emcguffie]

6. Please check out her B vitamin levels.

B vitamin deficiencies can definitely cause a terrible feeling of anxiety.

I took care of my mother while she was dying of cancer, and at one point she developed Wernicke's encephalopathy (caused by B-1, thiamine, deficiency) was hospitalized, they put a stomach tube in and fed her, and eventually she got over it. What they never checked out was the possibility of celiac disease being the cause of that.

Well, now, I have celiac disease, and before we figured it out, I was going down the same road she was on. So now I'm pretty sure she had celiac disease, which can cause a generalized anxiety disorder, which I do have now. Because of B vitamin deficiencies. Your nervous system has to have B vitamins.

During daylight hours, I feel physically afraid, although I'm not emotionally afraid. I feel as if I'm about to jump out of skin all the time. My mother was like that as well most of her later years. She was on Xanax for a long time, and we forced her to get off of it, but now I think it was celiac disease, and I feel terrible now that I think I know what she was going through. Because I now know what it can feel like.

Celiac disease is very common, but also very under-diagnosed. You stop absorbing nutrients and eventually food. I lost about 40 pounds in a few weeks a while back, because I wasn't absorbing any of my food...

Does she have diarrhea? If so, definitely get her checked out by a good gastroenterologist.

Good luck. WHen she's gone, you'll be very glad you took care of her. Hang in there.

If you need to talk any time, give me a holler. I haven't been posting because I'm "too nervous"! It's hard to type. But I'm getting better....

So if you do holler, I might not notice for a while, but I will make an effort to check.

[rumpel]

11. oh...emcguffie

I hope you can beat your anxiety.

She is getting B-12 and something called Protease which our holistic Vet prescribed for her. Her bloodwork is "within range" except she apparently needs more protein.

Luckily not diarrhea. She had a very persistent clostridium infection for many months, though. But that was a couple of months ago.

I have to inform myself on the celiac disease...I am glad you are doing better.

Thanks and hang in there, too.

[Shallah Kali]

16. Is the b-12 in a shot or sublingual? As people age or have digestive troubles absorbation goes away

I know I get a huge charge out of sublinguals but only a little difference from a tablet. Gut infections like c. diffile are brutal on the digestion. For one thing they wash out all the good bugs that produce b-vitamins in return for a nice home. Can your Mom eat yogurt or kefir? A good brand with a 7 or more live active cultures do the best job and probably are easier on the budget than taking probiotic supplements.

Celiac disease can cause massive digestive upset and no digestive upset. Some get D, some get C, some just have other symptoms, some have epileptic seizers that go away after going gluten free. I have read of a few that act like they have bipolar aka manic depression if they are exposed to gluten, some for weeks after an exposure.

[rumpel]

27. Celiac disease

She has been taking pro-biotics, and has been eating yogurt every day. As I looked up the disease, I don't think she has celiac.

She was however diagnosed for having moderate depression.

[Callie McAllie]

32. I'm so sorry. This is a very difficult situation

I can't add much to the many fine suggestions you've already gotten. Please take care of yourself as much as you can. I know this is not so much in the vein of this site, but when I was in a similar situation with an impossibly troubled stepdaughter, I just prayed, and my prayers, I believe, were answered.

Also not in the vein of this site, but medication helps too. Consider antidepressants.

This is such an impossible and overwhelming thing, and I know it's your mom and you love her, but you cannot change her, you can only change how you respond to her. And maybe the best response would be to put her in assisted living or something, even if it's on medicaid. I hope that something like that is a possibility for you, because sometimes you just have to avoid that negative energy. The guilt is huge, but it passes as you realize how much better you feel without it.

[I Have A Dream]

33. Callie, are you aware that we have a monthly prayer thread in this forum?

Many of us in this forum strongly believe in prayer. :) (Or did I misunderstand what you meant when you said "... not so much in the vein of this site"?)

[Shallah Kali]

13. Rumpel please be kind to yourself. If you have an emotion it is the correct emotion....

it is how you *act* on that emotion that matters. You are human. You are allowed to be human. Even great beings are not 100% acting out compassionate loving kindness 24/7/365. While that is your goal it is only human to stumble along the way. You in your very own self deserve compassion as well. Think of what you would say to one of your friends in a similar situation. Don't beat yourself up. Go hit a punching bag or pillow. Go to your room turn up the radio and have a temper tantrum like you were two. Jump up and down, growl, thrash on the bed, yell creative insults into a pillow. Find some way of using up that frustration energy and the adrenalin it creates. When my sis was visiting I could go out and shovel snow to let it out.

Ask your guides and allies for assistance and ask your Mom's as well. Ask if they can help you sweep away the bad vibes, fear, and frustration. Ask for blessings for your broom, vacuum, dust cloth and similar tools so that they recycle all the bad vibes they touch. Ask the same for the entire home and every object in it if you wish. The Earth and nature does a certain amount of energy recycling just as it recycles organic matter. You can ground your home and specific rooms to speed up this normal process. Just visualize as best you can a globe of energy around your home (and any specific rooms such as your Mom's and your own bed rooms) in the color(s) of your choice. Then picture a cord going from the lowest floor of the house going down to the center of the earth and the same one by one for each room. If you like you can also send a cord upwards to receive celestial energies. Just set with the intention that only energies that serve the highest good of your family may enter then let them flow down. I find I need to to these vitalizations more frequently when I start and as they become established I can just reinforce the thoughtform every few weeks.

Please use any of the above that you like and modify in anyway you wish. I have a bit more to say but my cats are giving me sad looks because they haven't had their dinner yet.

[Shallah Kali]

15. .... a few more suggestions

Ground and shield yourself first thing in the morning and again before sleep. You might find it most useful to do her room as often and the house once a day. If you wish invite your guides and allies to help if they can. Send your grounding cord from your root chakra down through the earth star chakra (about 1' below your feet)and then on to the core of the earth. You can also send roots from your feet into the earth. I usually do both. Then send up your celestial cord from your crown chakra up to the transpersonal point into the higher realms. Breath in the light from the earth up into your body until it fountains out your crown chakra to flow back down into the earth. With the energy entering the crown breath it down into your body until it flows down your grounding cord into the earth. Thank the universe, the earth, and/or your higher power(s) of choice for these gifts and you are done.

A bit on the Earth Star Chakra here: http://books.google.com/books?id=7eOAGAo-alMC&pg=PA31&vq=earth+star+chakra&sig=nXEj7d99S-zyVY4kQg0r7ciy3EE


IT is also good to check for energy cords connecting people as they allow us to be jerked around by others even through shielding. I do this after grounding and shielding so I am balanced and protected before I start. I look at myself using my mind's eye and check for cords. Usually I can't see them at first until I 'pretend' I can see them so my logical brain stops sabotauging the process. Then I can see cords between me and others. I look for the icky ones that look awful or I feel are draining me. I Either then gather all of them together, cut them, and then breathe light into the areas they hooked in until I have burned away any residue or I breath light into the areas where they hook in until they cords break off of themselves. Often I use purple light but any will work so choose the one that suits you best. Then I place bandages of gold mesh over those areas to shield them so they cords can't be reattached as the areas heal.

Cords can come from many lifetimes and sometimes are part of old agreements. Affriming that you release these cords and any old vows, agreements, contracts or anything of that sort that does not serve your highest good can help release these so they won't come back. I try different wordings to make sure I cover the bases especially when ending a bad relationship *and* when i need to reduce the emotional/mental stuff I pick up from someone I do wish to have a relationship with. Releasing old stuff is good. Often I have found I have kept hold of old stuff for many lifetimes hauling it along long after I could have let it go. Sometimes it is stuff I should never have picked up as it was somebody else's but did out of compassion only to see the person go through a similar horrible experience in yet another life. Whatever the source it is good to check periodically to see what can be cleared out of the old psychic storage facility.

[rumpel]

18. Shallah

thank you for your detailed suggestions. I will do it. I have had a sense there is a "chord"...
I have done work and asked for her guides and mine to converse some months ago, when she was really out of it. There was a lot of conversation. Suffice it to say, her guides told me, they are trying - it sounded like she is not listening.
Maybe now she may be more inclined...

thank you :)

[Shallah Kali]

24. YVW! Guides & HighSelf can sometimes give insights that help deal with things

sometimes they can advice techniques and treatments. Sometimes they can give knowledge that helps one cope if only to say 'well she reacts this way because of that'. And sometimes, just sometimes, the high self will consent to healing when the conscious mind can't or won't.

My gut intuition suggests sending love, light and general healing energy to your Mother as a child and infant. This is probably a safe bet as few get through life without some trauma in those years. In Reiki we are taught a symbol meaning 'no time, no space, all as one' used to send distant, retroactive and future healing but that is really only a handy way to focus. In physical there is time and space. In spirit it literally does not matter. The grounding and energy breathing technique I described above can be used to channel healing energy. As it is not selfregulating as Reiki is when I use it I send staring with a request to any beings of divine light who has that person's highest good as their intention and willing to help to send whatever kind and amount of energy serves the highest good of that person through me now. It comes in through the crown and down out the hands often going through the heart chakra first. I also ask my guides/allies for help as sometimes the amount the person needs can make me feel like I am rocket trying to blast off. a healing channel acts a bit like a power adptor that lets you use American appliances in europe. Sometimes the adaptor needs an adaptor and I find one spirit guide acting as buffer trasnforming the energy downstepping it from the other into me just as my body someone downsteps it for the recipient.

BTw with practice or innate talent you will find that you don't need to sit and concentrator and say things like 'MUst! SEND! ENERGY! TO! (insert name of treated area or issue)!' Just get it started and let it flow. To reduce picking up energy from the recipient imagine putting on a pair of energy gloves first (I like gold mesh) that lets helpful energies flow through but anything less than is blocked. People tend to take on stuff from those they care about unconciously which is why grounding and shielding is necessary. I am useless as a healing channel if I get caught up in another's pain. taking it only is only temporary relief so better to find ways to heal to the source and assiting the person in doing as much as possible in the process. Of course this doesn't always happen so I just do the best that I can and hope I make a difference.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

17. Oh Rumpel!

I'm sorry to hear about this. I get the sense that you need to set boundaries and then psychic barriers between yourself and your mother. You definitely need another in the house as care giver. As for the barriers, I'm getting white light and salt, for some reason. Please take care!

[rumpel]

19. thank you

white light and salt - that I can do.

the trick seems to me, barriers without offending...

I'll see what happens.

[Why Syzygy]

22. boundaries

not barriers. Small detail. Some of our mothers don't have boundaries and think we should not either. I have freaked out at my mother a couple of times. Once she put her cold hands on my back under my sweater and I came unglued. Sometimes her 90 thousand questions start and now I give my newer, briefer and calmer version of *that's my boundary* and move away quickly! I won't speak with her if she continues to shove.

You've gotten great support here. I'm so sorry this is so difficult. It's very complicated. It's a very good thing that you have been shoring up your spirituality and absorbing all the good vibes you can.

Does she have anything to occupy her time other than tv? Does she like to knit or can you get her to journal? She needs things to keep her interested with less time to worry. Does she have a wheel chair? If not, please ask your local freecycle and craigslist right away. You might also want one of those potty on wheels which my grandmother had. Are your bathrooms handicap equipped? You might qualify for financial assistance to have that done. I think all bath tubs should have hand rails. Do you have a handicap parking permit? There may be other items that are easily obtainable that will make both of your lives less victimized.

These agencies are specifically for care givers. You need a support network.

http://www.caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/home.jsp
http://www.nfcacares.org/index.cfm

You've got some great suggestions up thread. Would you now be able to try Rescue Remedy with her? It would help you too. I used to have paralyzing panic attacks and phobias and it helped me every time. Also, I would make sure she gets plenty of hydration. That's important for mental issues and her joints. I've been told that gatorade mixed 1/2 with water is better than just one or the other for rehydration. Increase plain water intake too. I also read that lecithin helps with hydration. I'm trying it. It's cheap enough. You can bless the water to be wholly healing for her and of course is the perfect vehicle for RR, even though I've put it under my tongue many times.

Another thing that intuitively comes to mind is to get her to breathe deeply. Anxiety is trapped in the stomach or chest and we hold our breaths. When you do go to her room, maybe the two of you can do some deep breathing exercises. And if you tuck her in at night, that would be a good way to help her relax. It cannot but help you feel better too.

When my grandmother was hospitalized for gall bladder surgery, it was late one night. My mother and I were there but GM wouldn't go to sleep until she got another pain pill! She wasn't allowed any more pain pills that night, so I suggested my mother give her a tic tac. So that's what we did. GM thought it was the pill, took it, closed her eyes and went right to sleep!

Yes, the mind is more powerful than we even imagine I suspect. Some people never choose to be as well as they can be. We don't really know how to. Would she be open to listening to something online? Mona Lisa Schulz is an intuitive medical doctor. http://www.hayhouseradio.com/index.php requires email registration to access the archives, but it's worth it. Here's a couple your mom might like >

Air Date: September 13, 2006, 1:00 pm - 2:00 pm PST
Calling All Angels: Using Spirituality and Meaning to Treat Anxiety and Nervousness
Faith is the antidote to fear. It’s no wonder that the brain area for anxiety is also critical for spirituality. Learn to access your unique spirituality so you can feel safe in this often anxiety-provoking world.

Air Date: August 29, 2007, 1:00 pm - 2:00 pm PST
Waiting on the World to Change: Worry, Anxiety, and Intuitive Distractibility
Are you always "worried sick" about the numerous crises in the lives of your family and friends? Your constant worry and anxiety about everyone’s problems causes your health to nosedive and makes you lose control of your life. Learn Dr. Mona Lisa’s steps for taking control of your anxious intuition before your health gets out of control.

I hope you let us help support you during this time. I think about you and your mom a lot already, and will continue to do so.

edit: I forgot to add this HH radio program that would be addressed to you (I can't put the links because you have to be logged in to access this part of the site) >

Air Date: January 2, 2008, 1:00 pm - 2:00 pm PST
The End is Near: Staying Healthy While Caring for a Sick Loved One
Are you a perpetual caregiver? Intuition and empathy may help you become very nurturing and caring, but unfortunately you're also emotionally and physically sensitive to others' suffering. Join Dr. Mona Lisa as she teaches you how to be medically intuitive and caring but avoid burnout.

[BlueIris]

21. Oh, rumple. I'm in a similar place.

Taking care of an aging, bedridden, mentally ill parent with few or no resources of your own is as stressful as it gets. I realize this is of little or no help given the circumstances, but I'll be thinking about you. Hopefully we can do a "mutal exchange of manifestation of solutions" kind of a thing.

[rumpel]

28. mutual exchange

sounds like a good and fun plan.

Thanks for your good thoughts... :)

[stellanoir]

23. oh dear

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((rumpel & rumpel's mom)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I've nothing beyond a hug to ad to the fine suggestions you've already gotten. I'm sorry you're going through this and hope you arrive at some more tolerable solutions very soon.

:grouphug:

[rumpel]

29. much appreciated, stella

:grouphug:

[Sweet Freedom]

26. Have you called 211?

I do not know if this is availble where you are, but I found this info:

2-1-1 is the abbreviated telephone number used in many states throughout the U.S. as a point where people can link to services and talk to specialists for free, 24 hours/day. We suggest you tell them upfront that you are a senior citizen or that you specifically need help in assisting a senior.

If you do not have this service, maybe this group can help you (they run the 211 in Houston).
http://www.careforelders.org/

:hug:

[rumpel]

30. thanks I will check that out

:)

[rumpel]

31. Thank you ALL!

So much good vibes and suggestions. It must get better :)

I now see a pattern of a routine (more or less) for the day that I can work with at the moment. I don't know how long I can do it, but it's a start.

The most disappointing observation is more of the "personality change" or maybe just her state of mind. This will take a while to get over.
She has so many e-mails from her academic colleagues, so I put her in front of her computer every morning. It seems she wants to, and yet soon gives up, and wants to go back to bed. I also had to utilize the magnification feature and I am surprised that she says she can't see.
Furthermore, my concern is the prevention of bedsores.

I think I will soon need a registered nurse to check on her once in a while or something, since she will not listen to me much and insists on things that is not fact.

[Quakerfriend]

34. I've been where you are rumpel and, I know just how hard

it can be. Please, know that you are in my prayers:hug: It does get better.

Your mom sounds as though she might benefit from a little medication. The anxiety and excessively controlling behavior can be easily treated.

Perhaps, you could get a nurse practitioner with psychiatric background to visit her in your home. A nurse practitioner can usually write an order for a prescription. This worked well for my mother. She refused to allow us to take her to the doctor.

[rumpel]

35. ah, nurse practitioner

I have to check that out, too. Thank you.

It is very difficult to see how much is drama "attention please", and how much is real. There is also a lot of obvious bull, which she does not know everyone else can see through.

It does get difficult for me to "decide" how much we should try and push to get her back to "normal".

The other day, it suddenly occurred to me, that probably since dad died, she hung on to something that was no more. With her health situation, she probably let go.

I even thought watching her throughout the entire ordeal, maybe only part of her soul is here, acting only on memory, at moments she wants to be her old self - even the possibility of many entities piggybacking:

You know, her life work and last manuscript was in part about headhunters. This, according to her research is often misunderstood. Culturally it was a necessity and honoring the enemy tribe.

About 8 feet from me, in a display case, there is a sword, engraved with the number of heads the sword helped take. I would not be surprised, and based on repeated comments she made while still in ICU, that the ancestors of "her" people have a hold on her. I would also not be surprised the sword carrying entities. I think she said the tribal elders gave the sword to her, who knows.
Anthropologists/archaeologists have these strange attachments - before she came here, she returned a skull to Okinawa, I grew up with it in a display case - a big ceremony, as I understand it ensued - as a kid I said my daily mental good night and good morning because I did not want it to do anything to me - my bedroom was right above it.

I know they gave her messages from the spirit world, but when she tried to convey it to me then, under heavy medication to write it down, it did not make sense. Yet I can somehow deduct, "the ancestors are facing the Taiwan straits", "everything is in a dirty canal". When I asked, she said "politics and all", and "we have to shore up the stones". huh?

I would be happy if she would continue to act in their behalf towards justice and that is why I sit her down at her computer - but she gives up. It is sad, because it was the most important thing for her.

If anyone knows of a ceremony to clear and detach those spirits, I'd do it, just in case. Perhaps, I want the spirits to know, it is too much for her now. I'm sure there are other "items here I am not aware of. Maybe I have to find and contact their shaman...

[Metta]

36. Tough break. Have you thought of a geriatric case manager?

I suspect one of the agencies in your county can assess her and then provide either counseling for her (and maybe you, to get a handle on how to better deal with her) and a behavior manager or plan for her, in addition to the physical therapy she needs.

One thing that works well for me is to surround initially myself and then, some time down the line, her with an egg of gentle, golden flame, inside and out. Sit with the image and breathe normally. Works wonders in taming and removing energies. Repeat as you want.

It seems she needs more than you can provide. My heartfelt best wishes are with you.

[Metta]

Staying healthy while caring for a sick relative, link.

From Hay House archives. You have to register, (free, easy), in order to access. From Dr. Mona Lisa Shultz. I've listened to several of her programs and have found tips and clues.


http://www.hayhouseradio.com/episode_details.php?show_id=27&episode_id=3059

[Metta]

37. Staying healthy while caring for a sick relative, link.

From Hay House archives. You have to register, (free, easy), in order to access. From Dr. Mona Lisa Shultz. I've listened to several of her programs and have found tips and clues.


http://www.hayhouseradio.com/episode_details.php?show_id=27&episode_id=3059

[rumpel]

38. thank you, Metta

I did not intent to have this thread be a big one...

In any event, today it is going a little out of hand...I am tired and I think I will go to bed, since I know she will call me within 3 hours. At least her doctor called me back. I called him, because she made such a drama, which I believe was just to get her way anyway, but it sounded like a medical emergency. I don't play games, and I really have problems with people who do. :(

[japple]

39. Dear Rumpel, I am sending light and soothing energies to

you, and a request that the Universe give you what you need at this time. Your mother sounds as though she has become a child again and is operating from a place of fear and anxiety. Is there a way you can get an energy practitioner to work with her to balance her energies? It also sounds like you could use a session, too.

Please take care of yourself and keep us updated on your progress.

Peace & love.

[DemExpat]

40. All the best, dear rumpel, for you and your Mom.

I cared for my Dad with brain cancer for several very difficult months, so I have shared similar experiences.
Our less than ideal father-daughter relationship was healed in wondrous ways by this commitment - no regrets whatsoever.

:hug:

DemEx