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Edited on Thu Nov-27-08 02:11 AM by PurityOfEssence
That's the real problem: people don't want to accept that gay relationships are legitimate. It's sad, it's annoying, it's steeped in religious bilgewater--like most uglinesses in this world that are somehow given a blank check by society at large--and it WILL CHANGE.
People who have a problem with sex (oh, did I mention religion?) have even MORE problems with gay sex. Remember H. L. Mencken's definition of Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy. Those who can't find joy themselves often deem themselves justified to deny it to others; it's one of the darker sides of the human character.
The truth of relationships is that most of the time spent together is mutual support, sharing, taking turns keeping it all moving forward, and all that pesky human stuff. Gay sex is neither inferior nor superior to Straight sex or no sex at all. (Although, I must admit to being a bigot against that last alternative, but being a committed liberal, I'll defend people's right to be chaste...) A committed, loving relationship is literally indistinguishable from another on the basis of gender. Patterns of personalities exist, but people sort out in a broad spectrum of character types to such a degree that assumptions based on gender or preference are effectively unfounded bigotry. People are people, and should be assessed individually. Once that's accepted, the concept of hierarchical sorting of pairings is simply silly.
People hate that. They're jealous of other people's joy.
People have the bizarre belief that by condemning non-straight behavior they can make it cease to exist. They believe that they have the right to play god and enforce correctness. More than anything, they have a sick greediness about joy: they seek vengeance on others who have the gall of having a life that works because somehow their life hasn't. It's a meanness of the soul, and it's something we all have to get past: if we don't accept that others have it, we'll be blindsided by it.
In the end, gay rights will probably be had faster than most acceptances due to the sheer, undeniable fact that gays are everywhere. Now that the genie (or other sprite) is effectively out of the bottle, there's no recorking. Still, the nastiness of the resistance will persist for awhile, and that's just human nature.
The bottom line is this: people have the need and right to be with whomever they want as long as it's mutual, and nobody has any right to deny them that. Not granting the full expression of societal acceptance is a denial of that right. In the same way, however, we have no right to force religions or other organizations to accept this, and people will have to make their own varied peace with those groups.
It's a sad and petty world at times, and not recognizing that just makes one more vulnerable to its vagaries.
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