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88. Rape, Abuse, Incest and Assault National Network

Thu Aug 23, 2012, 08:37 PM

Aug 2012

This is the link to RAINN - the network for information on reporting, preventing, and resolving issues of sexual abuse.

http://www.rainn.org/get-information

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?- is there a woman here at DU who has not experienced sexual violence? [View all] kpete Aug 2012 OP

Glad to be the first rec, kpete cali Aug 2012 #1

ditto. and it doesn't even have to be physically violent. being stalked as a child by a crazy roguevalley Aug 2012 #110

Oh man I've been stalked too gollygee Aug 2012 #119

I have been extremely lucky, my dear kpete... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2012 #2

I am 54, and also have never experienced sexual violence, or any violence, for phylny Aug 2012 #38

I am 65 and must just be lucky newfie11 Aug 2012 #120

Me neither. marybourg Aug 2012 #127

Same here and I have lived in Bogota, NYC, Belfast and Cyprus. Walk away Aug 2012 #144

I haven't experienced sexual violence but my weeps for every female (and male) who has. Hestia Aug 2012 #145

Wow, you all are so lucky, started when I was just 1 with my uncle. Dont call me Shirley Aug 2012 #222

If you are female, you will probably experience some sort of violence SoCalDem Aug 2012 #3

SoCalDem kpete Aug 2012 #5

Women didn't want to report rape or sexual abuse years ago HockeyMom Aug 2012 #4

I was raped in my late teens, and never told anyone until many years later after I was married. robinlynne Aug 2012 #15

Date Rape in my early 20s HockeyMom Aug 2012 #41

How well I know. Women are born liars. I learned early to STHU. freshwest Aug 2012 #112

So sad for you. Blessings, sweetie. efhmc Aug 2012 #122

Thanks, efhmc. Half a century ago. Changed my reality. freshwest Aug 2012 #124

Thanks. Please take care of yourself. efhmc Aug 2012 #126

I hope you have managed to find some sort of peace for yourself, and I hope you are okay tonight niyad Aug 2012 #137

Thanks, I was just coming to delete after it looks like the thread was attracting some scorn. freshwest Aug 2012 #139

Hugs to you, my sweet. tblue Aug 2012 #172

Thanks, tblue. freshwest Aug 2012 #232

I don't have many women in my life who haven't Marrah_G Aug 2012 #6

I haven't ever experienced sexual violence. HappyMe Aug 2012 #7

I was attacked 28 years ago.... cynatnite Aug 2012 #8

Damn! tblue Aug 2012 #173

62 years old and never experienced sexual violence karynnj Aug 2012 #9

This message was self-deleted by its author TwilightGardener Aug 2012 #203

A fair number of males too, I would bet Hydra Aug 2012 #10

yep Taverner Aug 2012 #169

I'm one of the very lucky ones. But I have friends who have not been so lucky. . . . nt ncgrits Aug 2012 #11

Drugged and raped...so not legitimate rape, obviously. KSstellarcat Aug 2012 #12

Not only that... cynatnite Aug 2012 #13

how awful... renate Aug 2012 #65

You make a remarkable point! luvspeas Aug 2012 #206

I experienced date rape 3 times and said nothing proud patriot Aug 2012 #14

We almost always blame ourselves. redqueen Aug 2012 #17

yep proud patriot Aug 2012 #60

Same here abelenkpe Aug 2012 #48

big hug proud patriot Aug 2012 #58

I was 24 and only told my best friend. KSstellarcat Aug 2012 #74

omfg :( CabCurious Aug 2012 #186

I'm so sorry my friend RFKHumphreyObama Aug 2012 #226

I've never experienced sexual violence but I have experienced sexual harassment XemaSab Aug 2012 #16

I've been groped by strange men. Arugula Latte Aug 2012 #18

Yes, that is sexual assault, which is a form of sexual violence. redqueen Aug 2012 #22

It is absolutely violence. Chorophyll Aug 2012 #57

Same thing happened to me siouxsiecreamcheese Aug 2012 #107

As you say, it left a mark on your psyche lunatica Aug 2012 #160

I dated a brilliant woman a while back... Did I Just Type This Aug 2012 #19

wow. cause mine is the hint of aggression in any form, i walk. totally not accepted or allowed. seabeyond Aug 2012 #24

I'm one of the lucky ones but I am a regular rape crisis counselor and advocate riderinthestorm Aug 2012 #20

I was in and out of a violent AsahinaKimi Aug 2012 #21

I have both in AND out of the military CatWoman Aug 2012 #23

Ex-husband was abusive in many ways - TBF Aug 2012 #25

If you had no bruises, it wasn't sexual violence - that's what Akin would say Liberal_in_LA Aug 2012 #26

Too many instances.........so so sad. nc4bo Aug 2012 #27

My client endured constant sexual violence from her husband. no_hypocrisy Aug 2012 #28

Unrec brooklynite Aug 2012 #29

. FarLeftMale Aug 2012 #113

welcome to du, male. interesting to hear you think the OP .... stupid. nt seabeyond Aug 2012 #116

wow, you have been here 5 minutes, and you start by insulting long-time members? niyad Aug 2012 #149

Post removed Post removed Aug 2012 #151

You may be male but since you lack the empathy thing lunatica Aug 2012 #162

I honestly don't understand your point in this. The OP clearly acknowledges... CabCurious Aug 2012 #187

The exact quote: brooklynite Aug 2012 #199

it's is an opinion noiretextatique Aug 2012 #215

I have not experienced sexual violence. But . . . SleeplessinSoCal Aug 2012 #30

Is there a man who hasn't either? 1-Old-Man Aug 2012 #31

no offense to any brother, please kpete Aug 2012 #32

You have no need to apologize! IMO the equivalence was the offense CabCurious Aug 2012 #188

Oh, it definitely happens to men too. Chorophyll Aug 2012 #61

Rape is notoriously under-reported ... TahitiNut Aug 2012 #72

Doesn't help when you have posters here pretty much equating a2liberal Aug 2012 #134

this is a pretty callous post in a thread with heartfelt posts. it is a shame you felt it necessary seabeyond Aug 2012 #143

I disagree. a2liberal Aug 2012 #166

i felt like the rhetorical question about males was the callous one, honestly CabCurious Aug 2012 #189

? i am not follwoing. nt seabeyond Aug 2012 #193

"Is there a man who hasn't either?" CabCurious Aug 2012 #197

you are not wrong. not one man i talked to said he walks in RL with concerns of rape seabeyond Aug 2012 #198

well said CabCurious Aug 2012 #205

Yes, this is all I want MadrasT Aug 2012 #217

I agree that this was a hijak question geardaddy Aug 2012 #220

If you were a victim of sexual violence then just say so lunatica Aug 2012 #163

I have not been a2liberal Aug 2012 #167

I don't think anyone believes that boys and men aren't victims lunatica Aug 2012 #170

I was responding to a post about a2liberal Aug 2012 #178

Not me. Sex violence is too common, but it is not a universal experience among men or women. n/t lumberjack_jeff Aug 2012 #221

I'm certain there are many women who have not experienced sexual violence, BUT caraher Aug 2012 #33

I have Herlong Aug 2012 #34

Thankfully, no. WinstonSmith4740 Aug 2012 #35

my ex was abusive rockingirl Aug 2012 #36

I don't think I have ever met a woman who doesn't have a story of sexual violence. cbayer Aug 2012 #37

incest lins the liberal Aug 2012 #42

Much sexual violence is perpetrated by a family member. cbayer Aug 2012 #46

That's so sad. Thank God I've never experienced sexual violence of any kind...and I don't Auntie Bush Aug 2012 #80

I think the lack of discussion continues for women of your generation and that many cbayer Aug 2012 #82

i do not talk about it with my friends. never have. they do not talk to me about their experience seabeyond Aug 2012 #85

With my closest friends, it does come up. Others have just alluded to it cbayer Aug 2012 #93

ah. thanks. seabeyond Aug 2012 #96

im, unfortunately, in your camp iamthebandfanman Aug 2012 #210

When I was about 10 yrs old a man stopped near a local park asked for directions... hue Aug 2012 #39

Same thing happened to me!!! tblue Aug 2012 #176

this is a very good point nashville_brook Aug 2012 #40

I was groped Aerows Aug 2012 #43

I am now 50 .... etherealtruth Aug 2012 #44

57 here. Never experienced sexual violence. pink-o Aug 2012 #45

I'm a petite, feminine blond Aerows Aug 2012 #51

I've been somewhat lucky, compared to a lot of people gollygee Aug 2012 #47

I have not. Thank God. emilyg Aug 2012 #49

I have been very fortunate. I have never experienced sexual violence or domestic violence. Arkansas Granny Aug 2012 #50

I have not, but I consider myself lucky The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2012 #52

Wow, a woman locally finally got some justice eilen Aug 2012 #53

HE BECAME A JUDGE? tblue Aug 2012 #177

Yeah, I wonder if there was some bad blood btw him and the DA for the DA to work w/her, nt eilen Aug 2012 #212

I've been groped and grabbed. Chorophyll Aug 2012 #54

Varying degrees of assault ranging from GreenPartyVoter Aug 2012 #55

I had a couple of narrow escapes eridani Aug 2012 #56

I am one XanaDUer Aug 2012 #59

yup. the first was about 12, just sexual assault and the stories continue on seabeyond Aug 2012 #62

Pretty lucky I guess Freddie Aug 2012 #63

I've dodged a few bullets in my day... JenniferJuniper Aug 2012 #64

Kidnapped at knifepoint. Moosepoop Aug 2012 #66

What a dreadful ordeal. Liberty Belle Aug 2012 #148

It was dreadful -- but I lived. :) Moosepoop Aug 2012 #164

that smiley made my day CabCurious Aug 2012 #194

:( CabCurious Aug 2012 #192

Sexual harassment rather than violence. pnwmom Aug 2012 #67

Back in the 80's all of the women I worked with were routinely sexually harrassed... JenniferJuniper Aug 2012 #76

I was lucky then. My direct boss was Exec. VP. pnwmom Aug 2012 #81

You are so right about Anita Hill JenniferJuniper Aug 2012 #87

I remember those days, and yup that's exactly what it was like. It was expected. LiberalLoner Aug 2012 #84

Domestic violence most definitely in a previous marriage. Blue_In_AK Aug 2012 #68

I'm a flaming lesbian Aerows Aug 2012 #69

Raped in '87, date raped in '84, Ilsa Aug 2012 #70

I never have, but that frogmarch Aug 2012 #71

I was raped at 14. RebelOne Aug 2012 #73

I have had a few incidents Beringia Aug 2012 #75

ChickMagic was raped sometime back in the early 70s derby378 Aug 2012 #77

I'm so sorry, derby378, both for what happened to her pnwmom Aug 2012 #83

Thank you... derby378 Aug 2012 #90

I was raped when I was 29. Le Taz Hot Aug 2012 #78

Twice here LadyHawkAZ Aug 2012 #79

+1. everyone knows my stories already so I won't repeat them, but.....when I was a young child, LiberalLoner Aug 2012 #86

So sorry, LL, that you went through that as a child. pnwmom Aug 2012 #94

Thank you - I'm so sorry for what we've all been through, for how our society is :( LiberalLoner Aug 2012 #98

How about Muslim and African women ? They must go through hell on earth! Auntie Bush Aug 2012 #104

The world as a whole practices unbelievable misogyny. I even understood that as a young girl and LiberalLoner Aug 2012 #108

Rape, Abuse, Incest and Assault National Network MarvelUs Aug 2012 #88

No sexual violence, just weird, well, I don't know what to call it. Butterbean Aug 2012 #89

Held at gunpoint. Managed to escape. nolabear Aug 2012 #91

I am so sorry that happened to you. MadrasT Aug 2012 #218

I'm absolutely shocked! I had no idea that rape and sexual assult was so pervasive. Auntie Bush Aug 2012 #92

I haven't. But I don't need to have to understand that sexual violence can come in many guises... renie408 Aug 2012 #95

I had forgotten, but I just remembered pnwmom Aug 2012 #97

:( All of us...it's pervasive...not one of us escapes unharmed.... LiberalLoner Aug 2012 #100

I have never experienced sexual violence but I have friends malaise Aug 2012 #99

Yes. Yo_Mama Aug 2012 #101

An old man touched me between my legs when I was 10 yrs I was embarassed kimbutgar Aug 2012 #102

This message was self-deleted by its author ohheckyeah Aug 2012 #103

I have never experience sexual violence or even violence against me Raine Aug 2012 #105

I have experienced it. laundry_queen Aug 2012 #106

raped and beaten, then again .... polly7 Aug 2012 #109

I've experienced sexual violence Control-Z Aug 2012 #111

You never forget these experiences... MrMickeysMom Aug 2012 #114

I punched a groper in the face at '83 NC State NCAA b'ball celebration zazen Aug 2012 #115

I have handmade34 Aug 2012 #117

I have never talked about my experience. femmocrat Aug 2012 #118

If you ever decide to change your mind, Le Taz Hot Aug 2012 #121

Thank you, I appreciate that. femmocrat Aug 2012 #228

I haven't either. jillan Aug 2012 #125

Thanks, jillan. femmocrat Aug 2012 #229

Not me. I didn't fight back. So I had no physical bruises. Overseas Aug 2012 #123

not me either azurnoir Aug 2012 #128

So many kandkfunk Aug 2012 #129

Not sexually assaulted per se; Rozlee Aug 2012 #130

I said no, but he didn't listen. aquart Aug 2012 #131

... TeeYiYi Aug 2012 #135

Multiple times.... Lisa0825 Aug 2012 #132

I was molested when I was 12 by a family friend. Jennicut Aug 2012 #133

i cannot give a hug to every person on this thread, or every person who is reading and has seabeyond Aug 2012 #136

And there are men who have also been sexually assaulted vietnam_war_vet Aug 2012 #138

The well-connected are idolized, the rest left behind. So sorry you were betrayed by all. freshwest Aug 2012 #142

It really blows my mind at how callous those kids were at such a young age Lilyeye Aug 2012 #153

Assaulted by a "friend" when I was 22-ish. yewberry Aug 2012 #140

I am apparently one of the lucky ones who have not. southerncrone Aug 2012 #141

I was attacked on a street by a large man armed with a broken bottle, Liberty Belle Aug 2012 #146

One of the "lucky" ones, . . . tilsammans Aug 2012 #147

I was sexually assaulted by a teenage boy when I was 8 years old. Aeroette Aug 2012 #150

I am sorry that happened to you and I understand what it's like to avoid places. MadrasT Aug 2012 #219

I am 25 years old, but I have been fortunate to not go through molestation or rape Lilyeye Aug 2012 #152

My wife, although not technically a member of DU, can claim that DFW Aug 2012 #154

I am so sorry defacto7 Aug 2012 #155

I was lucky. xxqqqzme Aug 2012 #156

No physical violence, more humiliation and harassment than I care to think about. sarge43 Aug 2012 #157

Date raped. a la izquierda Aug 2012 #158

I was sexually molested when I was six lunatica Aug 2012 #159

I am one of the lucky ones. FlaGranny Aug 2012 #161

I haven't (I'm 45). Mad_Dem_X Aug 2012 #165

I'll be 51 next week and I haven't experienced any sexual violence Larkspur Aug 2012 #168

Been groped by coworkers and date rape. sinkingfeeling Aug 2012 #171

Where to start? MadrasT Aug 2012 #174

Exactly. Starting at age 11. lapislzi Aug 2012 #175

I am so sorry. MadrasT Aug 2012 #181

Thank you, MadrasT lapislzi Aug 2012 #183

Oh hell no. Just HELL no. seabeyond Aug 2012 #190

Not a woman, but GaYellowDawg Aug 2012 #200

isnt that interesting. thank you for sharing this perspective. seabeyond Aug 2012 #202

While I have not, I know many who have. AllyCat Aug 2012 #179

Sad to say, I have KitSileya Aug 2012 #180

Thankfully rape, no - Hell Hath No Fury Aug 2012 #182

I'm a male and I experienced sexual violence. Alduin Aug 2012 #184

really.... most all women seabeyond Aug 2012 #195

Yes, have been assaulted. MuseRider Aug 2012 #185

K&R G_j Aug 2012 #191

I have slowly been learning to deal with my memories solara Aug 2012 #196

I have not... luvspeas Aug 2012 #201

I have never experienced it. TwilightGardener Aug 2012 #204

Sorry to report I was almost date raped Lunabelle Aug 2012 #207

In college I fought off a rapist by kneeing him in the balls, HARD LiberalEsto Aug 2012 #208

I have not been a victim of sexual violence, but s-cubed Aug 2012 #209

Every woman I have asked about the subject says they have been. stevenleser Aug 2012 #211

I think that you are correct that most women have experienced some sort of sexual violence. davsand Aug 2012 #213

Molested by a stranger when I was 12 lilymidnite Aug 2012 #214

not me, and not most of the women i know noiretextatique Aug 2012 #216

Probably all of us have faced violence from a man lark Aug 2012 #223

Why do so many men hate women? Arugula Latte Aug 2012 #224

It started before my 2nd birthday... BethWolven Aug 2012 #225

Been stalked twice; been nearly raped in my living room; boob/butt grabbed by strangers a Nay Aug 2012 #227

no.. sadly Bluerthanblue Aug 2012 #230

I'm in my mid 30s. I've never experienced any sexual violence, molestation, any violence period. SweetieD Aug 2012 #231

Sadly I don't even know if this counts GobBluth Aug 2012 #233

Is anyone else having trouble sleeping since this started? redqueen Aug 2012 #234