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In reply to the discussion: ?- is there a woman here at DU who has not experienced sexual violence? [View all]GaYellowDawg
(4,462 posts)I was in one of those honors societies at a small college, that works at various public functions of the college. After one fundraising dinner, a particularly wealthy donor was posing with two of us. All of us wore dress jackets. He slipped his arm under the jacket for the picture, and just after the picture was taken, slid his hand down and grabbed my ass. I was so surprised that I didn't respond except for a look of shock. He just grinned and walked away. Making any kind of fuss on the spot or later was not an option because he was one of the largest contributors to the college, and my dad taught there.
The other person who was posing with the groper was female, and she saw my expression. She said, "Hey, come here" and got me into an empty part of the room and said, "He grabbed your ass, didn't he?" I said yes, and she said he did it to a lot of people he posed with. Then it hit me: I said, "Holy shit, y'all have to go through this kind of thing all the time, don't you?" She said yes. Having had a lot of strong women in my extended family, I'd been raised to be hands-off, but I'd just been following the rules when I was hands-off. From that point on, I've been hands-off because of the insight. I'm just lucky that such a minor thing was done to me.
On edit: lapislzi, I'm sorry, I meant to put this as a reply to the OP, not to your reply. You've been through more than I can imagine, and I'm sorry for it.
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