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JohnnyRingo

(18,633 posts)
Fri Feb 9, 2024, 05:56 PM Feb 9

Just to add some support. I don't recall what year my middle son died. [View all]

It was the '80s but I'd have to look it up. One reason was the therapists doped me up pretty good to ease all consuming the burden on my mind. Lot of Valiums.
I believe my mind has blocked a lot of that trauma out, and it doesn't really matter to me which specific year or date it was. It was a black year, but I largely recovered thanx to professional help.

I know what year Mathew was born, what little league team he played on, and what his favorite color was, but the tragic day that I got the news that he drowned face down in the creek is behind a locked door in my mind. I still shiver and tear up when I think of it.

I hope a reporter never asks.


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I'm so sorry. Heartbreaking. He was a beautiful child. Nt spooky3 Feb 9 #1
(((hugs))) Deuxcents Feb 9 #2
I'm so sorry, Johnny. Diamond_Dog Feb 9 #3
I'm so sorry Johnny. Sending hugs for the loss of your livetohike Feb 9 #4
HUGS XanaDUer2 Feb 9 #5
I had open heart surgery several years ago. Goodheart Feb 9 #6
Powerful testament JudyM Feb 9 #7
Sincere condolences to you and family. Disaffected Feb 9 #8
A beautiful child cally Feb 9 #9
((Johnny)) blm Feb 9 #10
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Feb 9 #11
I can't remember Karma13612 Feb 9 #12
My momma died 60 years ago when i was 13. I can never remember the day. Trueblue1968 Feb 10 #48
I remember the day, not the year when my mom died. GreenWave Feb 10 #53
1963 Karma13612 Feb 10 #65
Thank you Trueblue1968 Karma13612 Feb 10 #64
My moms deathwas horrible. I was only 13. Trueblue1968 Feb 10 #66
❤️❤️❤️ Karma13612 Feb 11 #68
What matters is that you remember him. LiberalFighter Feb 9 #13
Thank you for sharing that and I completely understand. pnwmom Feb 9 #14
I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Feb 9 #15
What a handsome child. I am so very sorry for your loss. LoisB Feb 9 #16
Thank you for sharing that... Think. Again. Feb 9 #17
What they all said. Thanks for you posts. twodogsbarking Feb 9 #18
hugggggs niyad Feb 9 #19
My siblings are stunned every year when malaise Feb 9 #20
Same here. I think my oldest died in 88 but I am not positive. And I am not sure what year my hubby died either. appleannie1 Feb 9 #21
Thank you for sharing Dear_Prudence Feb 9 #22
So sorry for your loss and I completely understand. Akacia Feb 9 #23
Why is the date or year so important? Jarqui Feb 9 #24
Terrible occurrences being locked away "behind a door" The Unmitigated Gall Feb 9 #25
My mother's heart grieves for you. I am so sorry for your loss. chia Feb 9 #26
I'm so sorry. How terribly tragic. I doubt if I could have survived such a loss. sinkingfeeling Feb 9 #27
The only way I can remember some things Mr.Bill Feb 9 #28
My mother died in 1984; can't remember what time of the year it was, let alone the date. patphil Feb 9 #29
So sorry, Johnny. democrank Feb 9 #30
Sorry for your loss Tree Lady Feb 9 #31
Remembering huh! SLClarke Feb 9 #32
Thank you for the picture of your beloved Matthew Wild blueberry Feb 9 #33
Really infuriates me. limbicnuminousity Feb 9 #34
Oh (((Johnny))) mahina Feb 9 #35
I'm very sorry Johnny MustLoveBeagles Feb 9 #36
Johnny, I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. lucca18 Feb 9 #37
I remember very few years - I'm better at dates, but not perfect. Ms. Toad Feb 9 #38
I am so sorry for your loss. It never goes away completely. Sweet picture Evolve Dammit Feb 9 #39
I am so so sorry about your son mgardener Feb 9 #40
It must have been difficult for you to write this senseandsensibility Feb 9 #41
I cried when I dug up that pic. JohnnyRingo Feb 10 #46
I am so sorry Katcat Feb 9 #42
God bless Joinfortmill Feb 9 #43
So sorry for your loss. I don't believe I could survive such an ordeal. sinkingfeeling Feb 9 #44
It doesn't really matter when the exact date was, the pain is so blurred, it hardly matters. AND... FailureToCommunicate Feb 9 #45
I am so sorry. murielm99 Feb 10 #47
I cannot even imagine your grief and am so sorry. GoodRaisin Feb 10 #49
Oh, man... I'm so sorry. calimary Feb 10 #50
Oh my God Johnny. I am so sorry for your loss. And thank you for sharing it here with us Maraya1969 Feb 10 #51
Blocking thins like that out. True Blue American Feb 10 #52
Thank you SO much for leighbythesea2 Feb 10 #54
Beautiful child. I am very sorry for your loss. AllyCat Feb 10 #55
My sincere condolences. Duppers Feb 10 #56
My own experience says Hur is something more than wrong AncientOfDays Feb 10 #57
Much love to you...your Johnny was a beautiful boy. So_Blue Feb 10 #58
I'm so sorry Johnny. I understand. My Mom's eyes pleaded for me not to leave her alone in the hospital, but I did. AnotherMother4Peace Feb 10 #59
Hits home... Mike Nelson Feb 10 #60
I'm so sorry you lost him. highplainsdem Feb 10 #61
I am so sorry. NoSheep Feb 10 #62
The worst kind of heart break and grief. pandr32 Feb 10 #63
{{{ Hugs Johnny Ringo }}} Niagara Feb 10 #67
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