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usonian

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7. Be truthful AND good to yourself.

Thu Nov 20, 2025, 05:52 PM

Thursday

When my Mom would visit from the opposite coast, we'd have Thanksgiving dinner at some nice local restaurant.

If you're short of money, I am sure good folks here will find a way to send you some (The anonymity makes it harder)

OR, if you're up to it, how about helping at a mission?

https://www.feedingamerica.org/take-action/volunteer/thanksgiving

Soup Kitchens, Food, Pantries, Food Banks
https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/foodbanks/

https://www.idealist.org/volunteer-on-thanksgiving

https://www.operationturkey.com/volunteer/

https://www.purewow.com/family/where-to-volunteer-on-thanksgiving

There are some follow-up ideas in an OP I wrote, in case people get stuck and need a cheat sheet of comebacks.
I recommend getting the hell out of Dodge anyway.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100220807220

I'm in Central California in the foothills, probably too far, or I'd invite. Daughter an Son In Law will pass through here (YAY) next week (so I gotta clean up)

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I vote for you to leave town for friends if possible transportation wise and budget wise... wcmagumba Thursday #1

OMG. I'm sorry. All I can suggest is 100% noise-cancelling headphones (and maybe some beta-blockers) hlthe2b Thursday #2

Unless BOTH sides are unable to refrain from talking politics, it is best to make plans to be patricia92243 Thursday #3

Thanks for the response. UniqueUserName Thursday #8

Addressing your misgiving... Chemical Bill Friday #23

Stay home. you are going to ruin everybody else holiday. I certainly would not want a guest that patricia92243 Friday #24

Why are you more concerned about MAGA having a pleasant Thanksgiving than the 66,000 people wrongfully interned? UniqueUserName Saturday #25

Go out of town. mercuryblues Thursday #4

Bring over a nice arrangement of flowers before you leave, stay for some coffee and brief chit chat and then DRIVE AWAY Bread and Circuses Thursday #5

Agree FHRRK Thursday #9

Skip the MAGA family IbogaProject Thursday #6

Be truthful AND good to yourself. usonian Thursday #7

Thank you. I like your suggestions. UniqueUserName Thursday #10

I had forgotten my cheat sheet. Thanks! usonian Thursday #14

Here's a different approach.... nocoincidences Thursday #11

I would go and be nice womanofthehills Thursday #12

You make it sound like WE'RE the "not nice" ones Arazi Thursday #16

Totally agree Raine Thursday #17

"Sorry. I have other plans." Iggo Thursday #13

Careful. There's a contingent here who love to scold anyone shunning MAGAt relatives on holidays Arazi Thursday #15

my "humorous" suggestion: ret5hd Thursday #18

''Maybe Thanksgiving isn't the proper time to confront people.'' Xavier Breath Thursday #19

Be with the people you are comfortable with. NameAlreadyTaken Thursday #20

Out of town. Go to someplace you always wanted to go. haele Thursday #21

I thankfully have no MAGA relatives (close ones) living any longer. They've aged out and died. mucholderthandirt Friday #22

It's YOUR holiday. Do what makes YOU happy. SheltieLover Saturday #26

Do what you want. Personally, hanging with good friends Phoenix61 Saturday #27

Take Leslie with you! davsand Saturday #28

This is such a difficult situation to be in. I honestly don't think there is any right or wrong when Joinfortmill Saturday #29

Your Last Two Sentences Express The Conundrum.... ColoringFool Saturday #30

visit San Francisco over the holidays DBoon Saturday #31

See if you can volunteer somewhere to help feed some people that would appreciate it. dem4decades Saturday #32

Another vote for going away. OnionPatch Saturday #33

Why choose to suffer? buzzycrumbhunger Saturday #34

go to the dinner tmars505 Saturday #35