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womanofthehills

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12. I would go and be nice

Reply to UniqueUserName (Original post)

Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:25 PM

Nov 20

Family are often there for us when we really need them. 90 % of my friends and relatives are Dems but when I was injured- it was only my two Republican girlfriends who brought me soup and food and ran errands for me.

If they start talking politics, I would leave the room and not return till they stop.

Like the idea of just going for desert & coffee - bring something- be nice and leave early. You can always be the bigger person. We don’t have to be reactive if someone says something we disagree with. I like to be more zen and feel I have complete control of my happiness and do not have to argue with anyone.

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Avoiding MAGA relatives over Thanksgiving (asking for advice) [View all] UniqueUserName Nov 20 OP

I vote for you to leave town for friends if possible transportation wise and budget wise... wcmagumba Nov 20 #1

OMG. I'm sorry. All I can suggest is 100% noise-cancelling headphones (and maybe some beta-blockers) hlthe2b Nov 20 #2

Unless BOTH sides are unable to refrain from talking politics, it is best to make plans to be patricia92243 Nov 20 #3

Thanks for the response. UniqueUserName Nov 20 #8

Addressing your misgiving... Chemical Bill Friday #23

Stay home. you are going to ruin everybody else holiday. I certainly would not want a guest that patricia92243 Friday #24

Why are you more concerned about MAGA having a pleasant Thanksgiving than the 66,000 people wrongfully interned? UniqueUserName Saturday #25

Go out of town. mercuryblues Nov 20 #4

Bring over a nice arrangement of flowers before you leave, stay for some coffee and brief chit chat and then DRIVE AWAY Bread and Circuses Nov 20 #5

Agree FHRRK Nov 20 #9

Skip the MAGA family IbogaProject Nov 20 #6

Be truthful AND good to yourself. usonian Nov 20 #7

Thank you. I like your suggestions. UniqueUserName Nov 20 #10

I had forgotten my cheat sheet. Thanks! usonian Nov 20 #14

Here's a different approach.... nocoincidences Nov 20 #11

I would go and be nice womanofthehills Nov 20 #12

You make it sound like WE'RE the "not nice" ones Arazi Nov 20 #16

Totally agree Raine Nov 20 #17

"Sorry. I have other plans." Iggo Nov 20 #13

Careful. There's a contingent here who love to scold anyone shunning MAGAt relatives on holidays Arazi Nov 20 #15

my "humorous" suggestion: ret5hd Nov 20 #18

''Maybe Thanksgiving isn't the proper time to confront people.'' Xavier Breath Nov 20 #19

Be with the people you are comfortable with. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 20 #20

Out of town. Go to someplace you always wanted to go. haele Nov 20 #21

I thankfully have no MAGA relatives (close ones) living any longer. They've aged out and died. mucholderthandirt Friday #22

It's YOUR holiday. Do what makes YOU happy. SheltieLover Saturday #26

Do what you want. Personally, hanging with good friends Phoenix61 Saturday #27

Take Leslie with you! davsand Saturday #28

This is such a difficult situation to be in. I honestly don't think there is any right or wrong when Joinfortmill Saturday #29

Your Last Two Sentences Express The Conundrum.... ColoringFool Saturday #30

visit San Francisco over the holidays DBoon Saturday #31

See if you can volunteer somewhere to help feed some people that would appreciate it. dem4decades Saturday #32

Another vote for going away. OnionPatch Saturday #33

Why choose to suffer? buzzycrumbhunger Saturday #34

go to the dinner tmars505 Saturday #35