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tmars505

(28 posts)

35. go to the dinner

Reply to UniqueUserName (Original post)

Sat Nov 22, 2025, 07:19 PM

Saturday

Hold your head up. Look them in the eye. And "take no guff when you strut your stuff". I'm 76 and I live in Redneck City, downtown Redneck City, and I have a hat that says "WOKE" and I wear it everywhere. And I know you don't want to hurt their feelings, but I have no problems doing that. I'm sorry to say, because I try to respect everybody, but the trumpistas do not deserve any body's respect. And since I don't respect them I don't care about their feelings.
Of course, following my advice would ruin Thanksgiving, but it may end up being very liberating for you, because you won't ever have to worry about saying the wrong thing again.

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Avoiding MAGA relatives over Thanksgiving (asking for advice) [View all] UniqueUserName Nov 20 OP

I vote for you to leave town for friends if possible transportation wise and budget wise... wcmagumba Nov 20 #1

OMG. I'm sorry. All I can suggest is 100% noise-cancelling headphones (and maybe some beta-blockers) hlthe2b Nov 20 #2

Unless BOTH sides are unable to refrain from talking politics, it is best to make plans to be patricia92243 Nov 20 #3

Thanks for the response. UniqueUserName Nov 20 #8

Addressing your misgiving... Chemical Bill Friday #23

Stay home. you are going to ruin everybody else holiday. I certainly would not want a guest that patricia92243 Friday #24

Why are you more concerned about MAGA having a pleasant Thanksgiving than the 66,000 people wrongfully interned? UniqueUserName Saturday #25

Go out of town. mercuryblues Nov 20 #4

Bring over a nice arrangement of flowers before you leave, stay for some coffee and brief chit chat and then DRIVE AWAY Bread and Circuses Nov 20 #5

Agree FHRRK Nov 20 #9

Skip the MAGA family IbogaProject Nov 20 #6

Be truthful AND good to yourself. usonian Nov 20 #7

Thank you. I like your suggestions. UniqueUserName Nov 20 #10

I had forgotten my cheat sheet. Thanks! usonian Nov 20 #14

Here's a different approach.... nocoincidences Nov 20 #11

I would go and be nice womanofthehills Nov 20 #12

You make it sound like WE'RE the "not nice" ones Arazi Nov 20 #16

Totally agree Raine Nov 20 #17

"Sorry. I have other plans." Iggo Nov 20 #13

Careful. There's a contingent here who love to scold anyone shunning MAGAt relatives on holidays Arazi Nov 20 #15

my "humorous" suggestion: ret5hd Nov 20 #18

''Maybe Thanksgiving isn't the proper time to confront people.'' Xavier Breath Nov 20 #19

Be with the people you are comfortable with. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 20 #20

Out of town. Go to someplace you always wanted to go. haele Nov 20 #21

I thankfully have no MAGA relatives (close ones) living any longer. They've aged out and died. mucholderthandirt Friday #22

It's YOUR holiday. Do what makes YOU happy. SheltieLover Saturday #26

Do what you want. Personally, hanging with good friends Phoenix61 Saturday #27

Take Leslie with you! davsand Saturday #28

This is such a difficult situation to be in. I honestly don't think there is any right or wrong when Joinfortmill Saturday #29

Your Last Two Sentences Express The Conundrum.... ColoringFool Saturday #30

visit San Francisco over the holidays DBoon Saturday #31

See if you can volunteer somewhere to help feed some people that would appreciate it. dem4decades Saturday #32

Another vote for going away. OnionPatch Saturday #33

Why choose to suffer? buzzycrumbhunger Saturday #34

go to the dinner tmars505 Saturday #35