Reply #92: Very recently I had a long talk with a youth I work with [View All]

[salin]

and the whole gist of the thing was the difference between intent - and reception. Even when one doesn't "intend" to send a certain message, if it is repeatedly received by other people as meaning something else - then perhaps it is time to reflect a little bit upon the difference between the reception (how it is perceived by others) and the intention. Sometimes a little tweaking can change the perception/reception.

Frankly it has been eye opening to me. The multiple messages I have received, some by LONG time Duers, thanking me for taking an alternative position to the "all is well, just a tiny mistep by one - but lets leave as is in the lounge". I don't really do the pm thing. These are not folks I am in any usual contact (and based on one conversation the last direct interchange may have been several years ago.) What is the point? Even people here at DU for a long time, feel intimidated to voice an opinion not in sync with the vocal and active majority at this point in time. Why? Witnessing reactions that often go past intellectual disagreement to personal hostility.

Suddenly the adult to adolescent discussion I had with a youth earlier this week - takes on another dimension.