Reply #36: You behaved well in the circumstances. [View All]

[aquart]

And she has many lessons to go before she learns how to deal gracefully with awkward situations.

You have been, officially, dumped. For the rest of your life, you will have empathy for others walking this path. And it does come to an end. You just took one of the lumps that make a decent human being. No pain, no gain is true.

I cannot gauge your level of misery, but you are completely entitled to indulge it and yourself for up to two weeks, at which point the emotional endorphins will have worn off and you can live anew.

Do what you can to avoid her for the necessary two weeks.

When you next meet....if your feelings overwhelm you and you must make a fuss, so be it, but you'll hate yourself afterward and cringe at the memory for the rest of your life. Better to be both cool and cordial. You'll be so much more pleased with yourself (and right now, in this relationship, you are the only one who counts).