Reply #57: man oh man! What is it with these people? [View All]

[lavenderdiva]

They obviously have the money, and the time to help, but just CHOOSE not to help OR contribute! And what is even more nerve-racking, is that they just don't understand WHY you are so upset about their behaviour and complete insensitivity! They brand you as 'emotional' or 'jealous' or something like that...

That reminds me of when, right after our Mother died (she passed 4 months after our Dad), my sister came into town, to check out our parents home, for what was left. She and her husband, who is VERY well off (they fly in babysitters to whereever in the world they are currently vacationing!) stayed in THE most expensive hotel in the city we were raised in. They stayed a weekend, ate at all the most expensive restaurants (the city we were raised in is known to be one of the best culinary experiences in the U.S.), hubbie kept calling his business contacts long distance from their hotel room for hours on end--charging it to the room, used almost everything from the mini-bar in the room. AND THEN HAD THE AUDACITY to submit EVERY receipt for EVERY expense to the estate (remember I am the executor) for reimbursement!!!!! Can you believe it? Absolutely incredible. Needless to say, the estate's attorney, whom I had hired, was aghast and said the IRS might have something to say about that, and eventually they paid their own bills, and retracted the request from the estate. I had told her that I didn't need her to even come that weekend after Mother died, that I would need her help later with the house, but she said she wouldn't be able to help me because she was pregnant. I guess it didn't matter at all, that I was working full-time at the time, and doing all this after work each and every night for months and months on end.

Sooooo, all that to say, when the truck pulled up and she refused to pay the driver, it wasn't for lack of funds! Nor did she ever once, offer to pay for some help to help me go thru Mother & Daddy's house, sorting and cleaning. It makes you wonder how you can come from the same gene pool.... Did your parents get the right baby at the hospital when she was born? It certainly gives one pause, at the very least.