Reply #6: I always wondered if there was some sort of situational constraint [View All]

[haele]

with the sayings "Judge not lest ye be judged in turn".

People f**k up because (pick any or all of the following depending on the person):

1)they're unlucky; they never seem to "get a break" - once they overcome one problem, there's another one that crops up out of their control.
2)they don't have the education, experiance, or coping skills necissary to adapt to unfamiliar circumstances. They literally can't see situations develop, and live in a reactionary manner.
3)they're limited in their understanding of social skills and don't know how to make and use networks to their advantage - or fall afoul of the wrong people through their "attitude".
4)in their community, they are "different" or the wrong social class; no matter how hard they work, they don't get the level playing field.
5)they're too proud to ask for help and try to take care of problems themselves.
6)they ignore problems, hoping those problems will go away - either through exhaustion or procrastination.
7)they are masochistic or adrenaline junkies who have the psychological need to live on the edge of disaster.

Some of these things are easily fixed, some aren't - and to think that "just because I don't have a problem with a particular issue" means no one else could be crippled by that same issue is pure selfish bunk. Everyone deals with problems in their own way - and hopefully, they can learn from them. But if they can't - who are we to judge?

Haele