Reply #65: I feel your pain. :^) [View All]

[chaska]

Smile, girl.

I know you're just letting it out and good for you, but you know that whatever happens has to come from you. Don't believe the bs about "waiting for it to happen", about "give up trying and it will happen." That's a sure way to stay in the same situation ... for-f'in'-ever. No, it's on you, LH. Do as you've always done and you'll be as you've always been.

And unless (now mind you, I'm not a doctor (pill pusher)), unless you're seriously depressed get off the anti-depressents. I'm convinced they're crap. I took them for years. Didn't make me feel any better. And I didn't feel any worse when I quit taking them ... plus I regained the use of my weiner (I missed my weiner).

I know it's a cliche but exercise really does help depression. Even a little helps, but the harder the better. Depression is natures way of saying "get off yer ass, and fix yerself." It really is a call to action. You can't always make the changes you need to make immediately, but there is *something* you can do. Are we not progressives? If we can make the world a better place, why not ourselves?.

Routines are hard to change. It's easier to stick to a crappy routine than to make even a positive change. You need to make yourself *actively* uncomfortable. Right now you are passively uncomfortable, and that's a recipe for extreme unhappiness.

But you know all this.

Do this: Sit down and think about your problem, develop a plan of attack, and chip away at it until the sucker falls.

Till then, here comes a big ol' hug. :^)

Good luck.