A Family Problem [View All]

[demnan]

Two of my brothers live with my Mother, or I should say, live off my Mother. We're talking 55 year old and a 48 year old sons living rent free at the home of my 82 year old mother. She has the house and social security, that's it - along with rising medical bills for a number of ailments. One brother just retired from the Post Office, the other does odd jobs around the neighborhood. They're both extreme alcholics. I have another brother who lives in Florida and has a reasonable normal life.

I live in an apartment 30 miles away from Mom. I've been looking to buy a condo or town house in my area, which is more expensive than where my mother lives. In her area I could buy a single family home for the same money. There is a good commuter train service that I could use to commute to work. Lately she asked me if I wanted to buy her home. She said she'd give me a good price. I had told her no at the time as I thought it would put me in a difficult situation with my brothers.

Going home for Thanksgiving yesterday changed my mind. One of my brothers got all mad and pouty because my mother wasn't quick enough bringing a bowl for putting dressing in. He stormed out of the house and didn't come back for hours. The other brother yelled at my mother for asking for a box of crackers. He insisted she must have one in her room.

A friend of mine came with me to the dinner. We both brought dishes for the feast. I washed dishes while my mother showed Mary some of her cut glassware. Neither of the brothers were present or acted civilly during the feast.

I think I need to buy my Mother's house, kick my brothers out and move in downstairs. I just feel I need to protect her. The brother in Florida would probably back me up. What do you think?