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[Hell Hath No Fury]

"no thank you" more than once, and that she has not heard it. If I had to repeatedly say to someone "no" I sure as hell would get irritated. I think I heard Oprah say that if you have to say "no" to someone more than once they are trying to control you in some way, and I would agree with that.

If you don't want to go, don't. If your "friend" keeps trying to pressure or shame you into it, she is not being a friend and you need to tell her that.

I have a very old friend who response to my sharing with her that I was having a severe depressive episode several years ago was, "I can't believe you're depressed. You just need to exercise." A year later when I told her I was suffering from life-threaterning anemia and that I was being screened for cancer, her response was, "You just really need to exercise more, that will take care of your problem." :eyes:

When people -- especially friends -- don't "hear" you, it's wildly frustrating, annoying, and, frankly, insulting.