Reply #30: yep [View All]

[idgiehkt]

so much of the time when we hear about rape it's always in passive voice, the victim 'was raped', even though the victim is always the object of the action she or he gets associated with the verb and the subject, the actual attacker, is never named. It maked me wonder if that is why we do blame the victim so much...some sort of linguistic programming thing.

I do think that rapists learn as children, I mean before 8 or 10, the attitudes that turn them into the criminals they are. Of course, it's possible that many of them are caught up in repetition compulsion as a result of sexual abuse, which our culture refuses to acknowledge even exists for the most part, because it wants to demonize the perpetrators of crimes like this as possessing some otherworldly evil instead of acknowledging the abuse that happens to small children, especially males, in so many families. My relative that just died was like that and to this day my family will say he was 'born bad' or just got some 'bad blood'. Bullshit. Someone destroyed his psyche as a child and he took victim after victim in his adult life. Some of them will grow up to victimize and some already have.

I know there are so-called 'rogue males' that go around in the animal kingdom perpetrating violence on other animals, including members of their species, and also gangs of pubescent males that travel together and do gang-rapes and stuff. I don't think it accounts for the amount of rape that is present in our society though. I could be wrong of course, because I haven't seen any statistics or percentages.