Reply #31: delayed response [View All]

[iverglas]

You asked a question:

"Would it have been in your self-interest <sic> if...
...a previous victim of your rapist had done whatever was necessary to stop the SOB?

I answered your question.

I stated that I was indeed grateful -- agreeing that it WAS in my interest -- to the women who had done this for me, despite the good reasons they had for not doing so, i.e. not wishing to expose themselves to more degradation than they had already suffered.

Had I not explained what their reasons were (and the fact is that by identifying them as recent arrivals from South Africa and of mixed race, I had already explained those reasons, despite your apparent failure to grasp them), the depth of my gratitude would not have made sense. They acted IN MY INTEREST, and AGAINST THEIR OWN INTERESTS as they perceived their own interests.

You asked whether it would have been in my interest for someone else to have tried to stop him. Of course it was in my interest. And it's nothing more than decent for me to acknowledge that someone acted in my interest even when it was contrary to their own.

My reference to their national origin and race was ENTIRELY relevant to your question. And I include that information whenever I relate the incident, because I wish to acknowledge the selflessness of the two young women who tried to save me from the very unpleasant experience I had, even when they were afraid to do what they did to try to save me from it.

I'd hate to think that you were minimizing their fear and denying their experience. You may be African-American, but you ain't lived under apartheid. For you to suggest that their experience was irrelevant to my reply to your answer is to minimize and deny their experience as oppressed and terrorized black people.

You are apparently quite willing to do that for the venal purpose of discrediting me. That's disgusting.

So my response, delayed to the end here, is: piss off.

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