Reply #16: My hair has been the source of all of the negativity [View All]

[SemperEadem]

that I've experienced at the hands of black females for the 46 years I've been on the planet.

When I was a 5 yr old kindergarterner, some 4th grade girls actually chased me home to beat me up because "she think she cute" because of my hair. When our family moved and I went to a new school in 1st grade, there was a 5th grade girl who would pull my hair when I walked past her when our classes went on lavatory breaks (the were both Catholic schools, no less). I think she got busted by the nuns (and that's its own circle of hell) because soon after, I never saw her again at breaks.

Then when I was in junior girl scouts, that same girl's sister decided after scouts that she was going to beat me up because I thought I was cute because of my hair.. Not only did she get kicked out of scouts, but she was suspended from school for that.

When was old enough, I cut it all off. That seemed to stop the aggression of black females.

I find that the problem has been its worst when either my hair was long or when I lived in the midwest and now in DC. When I lived in TX, Los Angeles and NY, I had no problems--had plenty of black female friends in who didn't trip on my hair... now that I'm in DC and my hair is long again, it's like being in grade school all over again. And its not like I'm not being friendly and speaking--I am--but when I speak, I get the eye roll, the turned up nose and the not speaking when spoken to... you'd think I just effed their man, slapped their mama and took a crap in their bed and told them to clean up their mess.

My sister had a worse experience than me and to this day, she has no black female friends; isn't interested in black females as friends; isn't interested in anything having to do with black culture; married a white man and her babydaddy is a white man (he's not her husband).

I don't want to have to forgo the friendship of black females, but it seems I have no choice.