Reply #4: 'cause many men are [View All]

[mzteris]

just f'ing clueless. and they want to keep it that way.

The wife/mom pays the bills, worries about the kids - health, grades, social life, activities. The wife makes sure everyone is where they're supposed to be when they're supposed to be, how they're supposed to be. He just shows up sometimes.

The wife/mom does the grocery shopping - so knows how expensive it all is. Prepares the food, cleans the kitchen. Does the laundry. Buys the clothes/shoes for the kids who are outgrowing them daily (again, knows the cost).

She worries about every single penny. He wants to blow it on "toys." She worries about old age and retirement. He thinks it'll all be okay. shrug. don't worry about it.


If he gets a whim and wants to go on a "road trip" - he throws some things in a bag and goes. No map. No reservations. No nothing. Oh wing it. If he gets there and there's no hotel he'll sleep in the car - or hey! party all night. No underwear or belt or shirt or pants - hey just go buy some. it's only $$.

If she wants to go on a road trip - she has to pack for herself and the kids. Worry about the weather - with appropriate clothing and extra changes. Makes sure they have a place to actually sleep that they can afford. Get everyone's toiletries, including any potentially needed items like bandaids, tylenol, oragel, neosporine, hydrocortizone cream, gas-x, eardrops. The special soap the baby needs. Lotion. Decide whether those sniffles means a cold coming on or just allergies. Does he have a fever? NOW?? Is that a RASH? or hives. Did the kid break his ankle or just sprain it. If you're going out of town, maybe you should take him to the doc first just in case?

Check the map, airline reservations, times distances plan for rest stops and things/toys to entertain the kids in the meantime. and oops - make sure the favorite sleeping stuffed animals make it into the suitcase. Oh and make sure that when you get there, there's food the kids can and will eat. And worry about how much it's all going to cost and that there's $$ to pay the bills in the meantime.

And let's not forget that when we actually get to that little "getaway" - Mom's still have to do EVERYTHING that they usually do (except maybe cook and deferred laundry). While dad's relaxing by the lake/pool. Mom's still getting the kids dressed, calmed, referred, fed, picking up the towels, folding up the clothes, entertaining and ensuring EVERYONE ELSE IS HAPPY!!!!