Reply #59: Romance in marriage is basically [View All]

[pipi_k]

bullshit.

Because where "romance" and being "in love" exist, it's always possible for them to disappear. If there's nothing beyond that, not even friendship, then the marriage isn't going to last...or, if it does, it's going to be miserable. People "fall out of love" and then run around looking for someone else to be "in love" with.

I guess some people are willing to overlook something that could affect not only themselves, but also any children they might have.

Money is up in the top five reasons for arguments in marriage. And that's probably even without starting off with massive debt.

Why on earth would a couple want to start off that way? Why on earth would they want to go ahead and have children (as many of them do) and then, very stupidly, subject the kids to a whole lot of arguments revolving around money? People don't use their heads, and it's usually the kids who end up paying the price for the selfishness and stupidity of their parents.

OK, so if you took vows and promised whatever gets promised in your vows, then yes...you try to work things out.

But don't even think about getting married to someone who isn't honest about something like that, and I don't care what kind of crap she wants to throw around about how she really didn't like to him, she lied to herself. That's bullshit.