DU relationship poll: Let's assess the hook-up potential here

[prolesunited]

Seems to me there have been a number of new and blossoming relationships around here to add to the ones that already have been established. Just thought a poll was in order to see how many hook-ups and love matches DU has been partially responsible for.

Answer at the highest level that your relationship has gone. I think I've touched all the bases, but knowing the creative people around here, I've probably missed something.

So, answer anonymously in the poll and feel free to expand on your answer below. Any new couples we should be congratulating?

Last, why do you think people here have gotten together? What about this place helps make it possible? Any pointers for those still looking?

[sui generis]

1. I have been keeping tabs on this blossoming

relationship between whoisalhedges and matcom, from a purely scientific stance of course:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=1493607&mesg_id=1493636

[Screaming Lord Byron]

3. What? A DAY AFTER OUR WEDDING, THIS!?!

:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :smoke: :mad: :mad: :think: :mad: :mad: :bounce: :mad: :mad: :mad: :crazy: :mad: :mad: :hippie: :mad: :mad: :wtf: :mad: :mad: :mad: :argh:

[tigereye]

21. what the wedding is already over?!

and whatever else comes after? Bummer. And now this. How sleazy. You have my sympathy, Byron.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

22. I am the stoic, abandoned spouse.

I will survive, oh yes, I will survive.

[tigereye]

26. jeez how fickle

but then again, you knew that when you married him. ;)

[Screaming Lord Byron]

27. Yes. And I still have that pre-nup.

Sure, I had to forge his signature, but I got it.

[tigereye]

36. what was the wedding like?

sheesh I went to pick up my kid at camp and then some shopping and I have missed all the salient developments. And now he is on to marrying various and sundry other folks. Trigamy? Take him for all he's got, kiddo. Although you might be lucky given the gaseous discharge commentary.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

38. Ach, I'm over him.

I should've realized when he wrote his own vows....in farts.

[tigereye]

41. ah affairs of the heart pass ( gas) so quickly

all right, on to the next topic. Where can I get more Mr. T Experience and Methadones CDS? That is my new music addiction.

[matcom]

2. whoisalhedges and i are already procreating

but he won't let me eat our young x(

[supernova]

4. I've had email/DU mail exchanges

with a couple of DUers but it hasn't gone beyond that. One person eventually married someone else. :P Oh well.

But several others I've since been interested in are still around.

I'm a little skittish about long-distance relationships though as he would pretty much have to volunteer to move here if it turned out to be a good thing.

[eyesroll]

5. Well, I am married to a DUer but we met 11(!) years ago so it really

doesn't count (what cracks me up is that maybe a third of DU knows we're married, and another third would be shocked to find out...)

I think it's pretty easy to get crushes on relatively anonymous posters -- I'm a very word-oriented person so in person, it's conversation (rather than "hotness" or athletic abiliity or whatever) that's going to get me interested; I think it works the same way with the written/posted word, for many people. It's also relatively safe -- distance and anonymity, and all that.

I've had online crushes before (and still get them occasionally -- marriage doesn't make one dead, after all) -- little fleeting crushes on DUers (that go away quickly when the object of said crush says posts dumb later), and bigger ones when I was on Prodigy in the early 1990s (I still talk to one, but I no longer have a crush on him, and besides, he's since come out). It's all fun.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

6. I usually have about four or five crushes at DU at any one time.

[matcom]

7. slut

[Screaming Lord Byron]

8. Don't worry, Mat. Clearly one of them is your yellow arse.

:evilgrin:

[matcom]

9. well DUH

of COURSE it is!

i mean, your not BLIND!!!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

10. interesting poll

wonder what brought that on...O8)

[arcane1]

11. can I only vote once?

:shrug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. yes

its the rule and all...and i know how you love rules :P

[arcane1]

13. damned rules...

x(

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. rules are meant to be broken

well sometimes they are

[arcane1]

19. don't I know it!

the fun part is choosing which ones to break :P

[SarahB]

15. Uh...

A heavy duty e-mail/chat/phone thing awhile back. Discussed meeting....
other things to deal with on both ends (yes, I'm soooo terrible :P), so that was that for the relationship basically. We'll see as far as that.

A bit of chatting with a male friend that got flirty on occasion, but we know where we stand and we're just friends.

I slept in Matcom's bed once. Does that count for anything? :shrug:

[VoteDemocratic2004]

16. Be very careful

It's like meeting someone out of a personal ad from the newspaper except you might feel like you know them even more but you don't because you only know what they want you to assume about them.

What they post could be a make belief life and they could be sitting in a prison typing everything in from the prisons computer. Once they are out...bingo...they want to meet you and you think that you know the person but you don't.

It's hard to explain but I wouldn't go out with someone from a newspaper ad because I would be too afraid to and you should watch out for people that are on messages boards also.

I am more then an honest person and that's one of my faults. Thinking that all people are honest is another one of my faults.

Look at what's in the media these days about men killing women. I don't think that they met over the Internet either.

If I could turn back the hands in time I would but I can't so moving on is a better choice.

Please watch out everyone.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

17. cant the same thing be said of someone you meet in a bar

or other places where "normal" people meet?

[Misinformed01]

20. "Looking for Mr. Goodbar" is never smart!

At least here they might be Democrats! :)

[Screaming Lord Byron]

18. You do have to have a good bullshit detector.

Unfortunately, not everyone does.

[tigereye]

25. including a good percentage of the voting population

unfortunately


I have warm fuzzies for a few folks and really enjoy their wit. But I think it would be hard to have a crush on someone you never saw. Guess I need a few pherenomes floating around. Also I'm married, so crushes have to stay in my head.

I think it is really cool that folks have found a good partner here though.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

28. just for the record

in real life i am a 40 year old man with 2 children. i live in long island. also a natural blonde :P

[Screaming Lord Byron]

29. Welcome to my crush list, fakelionesspriyanka.

:loveya:

[arcane1]

31. Dad, is that you...?

:shrug:

*pauses to re-evaluate*

[La Lioness Priyanka]

sick...sick boy

[arcane1]

34. well, when my dad impersonates 26 y/o girls online

what do you expect me to be? :silly:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

37. i thought you'd enjoy your dad being a liberal

:silly:

[arcane1]

51. for a change, it's rather nice

:silly:

[VoteDemocratic2004]

47. It's easier to detect BS in a person in person

After someone has built up lies for several years it would be hard to detect because even the bullshitter would believe his own lies.

What I dealt with was PO Boxes, pre-paid cell phones = work and home numbers which he answered both so it wasn't really a work number if you catch my drift, pre-paid credit cards so that there was no way of tracing his movements from state to state....he always bragged about not being able to be found if the gun with my name on it ever went off (No Joke).

Please watch out people like that are always looking for their next date just in case an order of protection prevents them from seeing their last SO.

[arcane1]

23. dammit, you are blowing my cover!

silencio!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

30. i knew it!

puppy eating monster :P

[arcane1]

32. hey, I only eat kitties

I'm not THAT bad! :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

33. be careful

i'll tell everyone that you are a sleazy old married man too :P

[arcane1]

52. you would, too, wouldn't you?

at least I don't have 2 kids :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

54. yes you do...i saw them...

:P


your children are adorable.

[arcane1]

55. shhh!

I have a reputation to fail to protect here! :P

[eyesroll]

24. Elaborating a bit...

Online crushes, in general, are pretty easy. Even with pictures, the person on the other end of a screen name can be whoever you want him/her to be. They're hypothetical, and can fill whatever gap you have in your life.

It's also reasonably risk-free -- my online crushes, past and present, have all been unrequited, and presently, I'm of course keeping it that way. I think it's easier, actually, to have an online crush than a real-life one -- no risk of getting tongue-tied and saying something dumb -- and if "eyesroll" says something dumb to "anonymousposter123," it's really not a big deal; whereas if Stacie says something dumb to, oh, "cute co-worker" (which, no, I don't have, but you know what I mean), it becomes a bigger problem.


Once you know them in person, more things become known and more things you imagine become impossible. Sometimes, that's a good thing (the axe murderer you feared is really the nice guy/gal who posts), and sometimes, it's not (the nice poster is really the axe murderer).

[Screaming Lord Byron]

35. On-line crushes are pretty safe.

Mine are pretty tame and obviously never acted upon. File under flirtation more than anything else.

[Misinformed01]

39. Right up until your wife or girlfriend, husband or boyfriend

find out about what is being written in a "flirtatious" way. I promise you, many of the SO's don't find it so innocently cute.

Nor do people that have been stalked.

Flirt with caution, whether online, or at the bar-

[Screaming Lord Byron]

43. Of course.

Don't do anything you couldn't tell your SO about. We're both happy to flirt with others.

[eyesroll]

44. Well, it's not really an issue for my husband and me...

So long as it's not stalking, no biggie.

But, yes, if your SO is not on the same page as you are, do proceed with caution. One person's harmless flirtation is another person's cheating...

[VoteDemocratic2004]

57. It gets people jealous

It would be like the person is flirting with a woman or a man right in your face.

It would definitely hurt peoples feelings.

[eyesroll]

40. I don't even outwardly flirt

(although I might on another board...)

It's mostly in my head. Safe that way. More in the hypothetical realm than the actual...

[Screaming Lord Byron]

42. That's more in line with what I meant.

I'm just digging this hole deeper and deeper, aren't I?

[eyesroll]

45. I see no hole...

:shrug:
:-)

[Screaming Lord Byron]

46. I just didn't want to sound sleazy or anything.

Often I defend the right to do something, but don't necessarily do it, y'know? Civil-libertarian hang-ups.

[VoteDemocratic2004]

49. The jerk turns out of be the nice guy and vica versa

Always remember that!

:hug:

[eyesroll]

50. Well, the single online crush that I actually met...

Turned out to be gay. But a nice guy nonetheless. He's a good friend now, 13 years later...

[VoteDemocratic2004]

53. Most of my friends are gay

I am at the point that I don't care anymore about meeting someone.

I am happy again.

[prolesunited]

48. WOW!!!

Left for a meeting and just got back. Many interesting and unexpected tangents. Carry on! :hi:

[Kahuna]

56. All the DU men I like are gay!!!!!

:wtf:

[PVnRT]

58. I would, but what's the point?

It would go like my relationships in real life, in that they wouldn't even start.

[Misunderestimator]

59. At the ripe old age of 42... I have finally met...

the love of my life on DU...

What more could you want than to meet someone who stands for the same things as you do, and is everything you've ever wanted? :D

And the best part is, that I CERTAINLY didn't come here for that.

Ok, now I'll stop gushing. :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

60. who are you dating?

keep gushing its sweet...

[Misunderestimator]

61. You are so uninformed... :)

NSMA, sweetie :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

62. sorry been non-du ing a bit....completely out of it.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

63. Well after some of my experiences here, I wasn't going to bite

but you turned out to be 100 times more than I expected and DU'ers...don't let that gallery pic fool you...she's WAAAYYYY more beautiful than that pic....and amazingly talented in the music department....I'm lucky..and I SO wasn't looking when I met her. :loveya:

BTW...Misinformed01 wants to be our Maid of Honor should we ever tie the knot ;-)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

64. did she shock you with her beauty and talent?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

no but she pleasantly surprised me

[La Lioness Priyanka]

66. damn it!!

you ruined my pseudo clever-ness.

[Misunderestimator]

65. Awww....

Well, it may be a while, but only because of all those discriminatory amendments being passed.

speaking of which... I wonder if we are the first gay couple to meet on DU... ???

Anyone else?

[slutticus]

67. DU incest.

:evilgrin:

[prolesunited]

68. Any late nighters

care to chime in?

[HEyHEY]

70. I'm always outta the loop - as far as I know there is like one going on

call me blind!

[SarahB]

71. Oh sure!

:eyes:
Now get out of my closet and get back to servicing me! :P

[HEyHEY]

72. Dang, I thought you were out!

Yes master

[Ramsey]

69. I've "consumated" many DU relationships!

OK, I am saying nothing further :evilgrin:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

73. Uh...did I not put enough wine in you that night to get THIS story?

[leftist_rebel1569]

74. I had a BIG DU crush

She didn't reciprocate, though...oh well, I'm over it so it's all good :)

[RandomKoolzip]

75. God, I'm soooo glad I'm married....

I'd be so very very in love with so many DU women it wouldn't even be funny. Almost every female I've met/exchanged posts with here has been awesome. I wouldn't know which one to PM!



Thank god I gots my wife in the corner with the rolling pin if I ever think about straying.......

[MaryBear]

76. Some of my worst relationships

were with man bears well known to me for many years.

Some of my best friends were met on line.

[GOPisEvil]

77. One problem with all of this: distance.

I know it can be overcome, but dammit, it sure as all hell makes things difficult. :evilfrown:

[Misunderestimator]

78. I hear you man...

But geography has never been much of an impediment for me. I've been a nomad since I left my parents' home... each new place is an adventure for me, and I've already grown tired of Florida after a few years there.

I certainly never expected to meet someone living near me who meshes with me so well... always a price I guess. Short-term... I'm seeing her tonight, so all is well with the world.

:)

[GOPisEvil]

80. I wish I had that ability.

I'm just too damned practical to pick up and move.

Add that to the fact that I just bought a house...isn't stability attractive? :7

[prolesunited]

81. Well, you'll just have to lure

some liberal hottie to come to you. :-)

[GOPisEvil]

82. I'm working on that.

*rubs hands and laughs maniacally*

:evilgrin:

[prolesunited]

83. Well, good luck on that

But just don't let the objects of your desire see that, it might creep them out. ;-)

[GOPisEvil]

87. Damn! I'm just like those evil-doers in the James Bond movies.

I let too much of the plot out, and end up with my secret lair exploding while James Bond gets the girl!

:D

[Misunderestimator]

84. I just bought a house too last October

After selling the one I had bought two years before that, and the one five years before that... Housing market's pretty good right now *hint hint*

[GOPisEvil]

88. I just made my first payment.

LOL!

To say I'd take a bath on the house now is an understatement. Now...in a year or so, we'll see.

[Misunderestimator]

90. Doh... well, that's slightly different.

That would be a cold bath :scared:

[GOPisEvil]

91. When Kerry is elected, and the economy takes off again...

...THEN I'll sell. I bought low - hoping to sell high. :D

[DS1]

85. You live in Florida? Come 'ere

:hug:

You poor thing

[Misunderestimator]

89. I know.. I know...

sad isn't it? :cry:

[Ellen Forradalom]

79. I am married and gaze wistfully upon all the hooking-up

I'm dreadfully lonely.

[LiberalVoice]

86. Nobody has the hots for me! :(

And I even sent in TWO PICS for the DU Gallery! :(

http://www.democraticunderground.com/gallery/gallery_g.html

(I have the hots for Lionesspriyanka! Ssssshhhhh! don't tell her :P )

[La Lioness Priyanka]

92. why thank-you!