Reply #5: Well, I am married to a DUer but we met 11(!) years ago so it really [View All]

[eyesroll]

doesn't count (what cracks me up is that maybe a third of DU knows we're married, and another third would be shocked to find out...)

I think it's pretty easy to get crushes on relatively anonymous posters -- I'm a very word-oriented person so in person, it's conversation (rather than "hotness" or athletic abiliity or whatever) that's going to get me interested; I think it works the same way with the written/posted word, for many people. It's also relatively safe -- distance and anonymity, and all that.

I've had online crushes before (and still get them occasionally -- marriage doesn't make one dead, after all) -- little fleeting crushes on DUers (that go away quickly when the object of said crush says posts dumb later), and bigger ones when I was on Prodigy in the early 1990s (I still talk to one, but I no longer have a crush on him, and besides, he's since come out). It's all fun.