Have you ever had someone play mind games with you?

[corarose]

There must be something in the air tonight that is contagious because a few of us are feeling blu or under the weather.

The questions is Ladies and Gentlemen. Have you ever had someone play mind games with you or have you ever played them on someone else?

Have you ever been fucked over and allowed it to happen or have you fucked someone over?

Have you ever been in a relationship and taken everything mentally off of someone and not given anything back or have you been the one on the receiving end.

Have you ever dated a married person knowing that nothing would come out of it or hoped that something would happen or are you the married on playing around?

Let's chat about our love life's and some of us don't have love life's.

Some of us might not want a love life either right?

[ant]

1. yup

Have you ever had someone play mind games with you are have you ever played them on someone else?

When I was younger and insecure I used to be incredibly manipulative in my personal relationships. Luckily I got smart. Now I only use my powers for good. :evilgrin:

As for having someone play mind games with me, my exboyfriend was the king. He would subtly undermine my confidence so I wouldn't leave him, threaten me by saying things like, "my exgirlfriend used to complain about that," etc. I never really noticed how bad it was until AFTER we broke up. After I got some distance from the whole thing I was pretty embarrassed that I put up with it for so long. That's what's tough about manipulators like that - you kind of feel not right, but you can't really articulate it, and usually the manipulator will just accuse you of being too sensitive or naggy.

I've never dated a married person, and I've never really fucked someone over or been fucked over by someone...not that I can think of, anyway.

[corarose]

3. Allot of threads are heartbreaking tonight so I thought that I would ask

I dated a married man once but he told me that he was single and when I found out I dumped him and my friend called his wife and told her about him.

I have been fucked over several times and I have developed a thick skin. It takes me a long time to trust someone and I don't know anyone right now that has earned that trust.

[ant]

4. some advice, if I may

It takes me a long time to trust someone and I don't know anyone right now that has earned that trust.

While it's easier said than done, don't let the bad affect you like that. You might be missing out on people worthy of your trust because (A) your standards are too high to let anyone in and/or (B) the people you would trust can sense you're walled off to some extent and move on.

Just my 2 cents.

[corarose]

5. One of the Chefs at my College

Told me that he wanted to fix me up with a friend of his and I don't know what to do.

[ant]

8. go for it

It's just a date, how bad could it be? If it's really bad you'll have a funny story to tell, if it's OK you might have a new friend, and if it's great, well..heh, it's great!

Just relax and try to enjoy yourself talking to someone new over a good dinner. Don't worry about the next day or what might happen or any of that. Just enjoy the evening for its own sake.

[ET Awful]

2. I don't think I've ever. . .

fucked anyone over really.

I have been fucked over myself pretty seriously.

[sleipnir]

6. Yeah, I have

I really had a evil talent in college at making people feel guilty and now I'm the one who feels really bad about all the girls I screwed over. I feel sick thinking about it sometimes. It's not worth it, and I've been on both sides, but now I know when to recognize "mindgames" and quickly counter and get out of the relationship.

It's shitty to do it to anyone and now I just use my powers to guilt people into giving me a free hamburger or a raise :evilgrin::

[corarose]

7. I have played them before also and I think that we all have

When you get older and wiser you notice them right away.

[Madrone]

9. My mom -

- was the mind game QUEEN - everyone else pales in comparison to her. I learned to recognize that crap early on.

I've been very fucked over - but I don't think I've fucked anyone over. Maybe someone in my past would disagree, but I don't think so.

Mostly, I'm single, so none of this applies too often in my life.

Although I hesitate to use the word "dated" - I have been involved with someone married, and on more than one occasion. It was never anything I sought out, and I never wanted anything longterm to develop. They were close friendships that developed into a casual but comfortable intimacy, for a period of time. I think I would have just died if their wives had found out - in fact, I think the thought mortified me more than it did the husbands.

[corarose]

11. When I had a guy one time play them on me and I recognized

What he was doing I played them back on him.

Sometimes you date a married man without knowing it.

[Madrone]

14. Yeah, but I knew.

I used to go over to the house of one, and hang out with their family. I was only 16 (17?), he was obviously older.

Sometimes I think I was born without the part of my conscience that everyone ELSE I know has that would be mortified by such a casual intimacy with a married man. It was never a "goal", and I never EVER wanted to hurt anyone's relationship.

I've had friends I was intimate with, knowing that there was no way I was interested in a real "relationship" outside of a wonderful friendship - probably many more of those than I have had close, loving relationships. Seriously - sometimes I think I'm broken. I watched my parents divorce when I was young, and although it didn't really make me sad or affect me in anyway that I can recognize I realize at the age of 31 that I tire of relationships easily (usually around 2 years), I'm not interested in entering relationships hardly EVER - and I have a difficult time wrapping my mind around the idea of waking up to the same person for 50 years.

And after reading that - I realize I sound like some "one is never enough" slut - but that's not it at all. It's a mental thing with me - someone can seem great, and eventually they are getting on my nerves. I'm really not very sexually active and often go YEARS between partners.

I don't have patience for the hangups of others - I'm independant and don't want or need someone's permission to do as I wish. I have a lot of male friends - and I can't handle any sort of jealousy from an SO. I hate jealousy with a passion. What a waste of emotion.

I guess I have an idea of what kind of man it would take for me to remain happily attached for life - but sadly, I do not believe he exists. I've found parts of him in various men, but I think finding them all incorporated into one man is an impossibility.

[corarose]

21. I use to throw up at the thought of staying with the same person for

50 years and having several kids and a house in the suburbs.

Now I don't know what type of man that I want but one thing I do know is I don't want a guy who has 5 or 6 women on the side.

I use to keep a guy or two on the side just in case I got fucked over by the one I was dating.

My first boyfriend worked for Deep Purple and he was OLD. I lived to him and told him that I was 17 and I really was 16. He lied to me and told me that he was 26 and he was 36. My Mom was around his age and my parents would have KILLED me if they had found out but I was living with my Sister in England and they didn't know about it.

The damn pervert could have been busted and I made him aware of that fact.

Anyone want to go to a Deep Purple concert if they ever play again. He always leaves my name on the guest list plus a ? mark because he knew that he did something wrong. And the jerk had the nerve to play mind games with me and tell me that he didn't want me because my boobs weren't big enough. They weren't big enough because I was a damn kid. He gave me an engagement ring and everything and I was a kid and that's how he tricked me into sleeping with him.

I have passes for life if they ever play.

[liberalmuse]

13. I relate to that.

My mom and your mom should get together. I can't deal with mindgames. People who play them are sick, twisted energy vampires.

[liberalmuse]

10. Yeah...

but the mindgames are done by close family members. When I was younger, I dated a guy, got serious, and got a call from his pregnant ex-girlfriend one night and dumped him. He had the nerve to send her over to my house to beg me to get back together with him. The guy I dated after that did essentially the same thing--I found out later that one night when I went to his house, he and his friends, who were supposedly my friends too hid his pregnant ex-girlfriend who had come to confront him away in the bedroom so I wouldn't find out. I would have NEVER dated either of these guys if I knew they had left some girl knocked up and were ignoring her pleas for support. I can really pick 'em. Thank god we don't all stay young and stupid for too long.

[JohnKleeb]

12. You mean someone pretending to like me?

Ah when I was in seventh grade this girl went up to me and jokingly asked me out, I was so humiliated, same thing kinda happened last year, I was embarassed again. I get my head fucked with on other stuff all the time though.

[corarose]

15. I didn't know your were 16

Do you know that you sound older by the way you write.

Don't worry about Dating you have plenty of time and when you get to College you will meet tons of people.

[JohnKleeb]

16. Really?

I am so starting a thread on this. It was embarassing.

[Mysterio]

17. hell no...

I don't let people play mind games with me, and I don't play mind games with other people. There's no point to it. :shrug:

[jokerman93]

18. Oh yeah!

I used to be in a New Age religion! ha!

[NightTrain]

19. Oh god, yes!

I'm damned if I know why, but I do seem to have a talent for hooking up with selfish, uncaring, manipulative women. That's one of the reasons I haven't been with anyone for so long. I figure, given my horrid track record, what are the odds that my next girlfriend would be inherently better than her predecessors?

[otohara]

20. Working In Radio

what a mind fuck that is - yuck!

[jus_the_facts]

22. playin' those mind games together....

...absolute elsewhere in the stones of your mind...yeah we're playin' those mind games forever...projecting our images in space and in time....yes is the answer and you know that for sure...yes is surrender you got to let it...you got to let it go...I want ya to make love...not war...I know you've heard it before.
:loveya: John Lennon RIP baby!:loveya:

[alwynsw]

23. I have 2 Ex-wives you tell me!