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I wrote following 3 paragraphs a while ago, and stuff has followed re: my folks. I've shared at CHCDSG, and thought I'd bring it here for y'alls help.
'I left house where husband had hurt me badly, prior to which, nothing but awful, hostile words, so I 'escaped' to 3d floor guest bedroom, for few years. Married 24 years, daughters now 19(sophomore) and 23 (awaiting grad school.) Beautiful old house, now on market, DC. No divorce plans; separation OK.
I've received meds for depression, for several years; effexor works. I just eliminated wellbutrin (big, icky pills! feel NO bad effects from that.)
Elderly folks, 88 and 93, in Florida, independent living now in community, where may become 'assisted' living; just visited. Mom has dementia, Dad OK, but both having occasional difficulties with eachother; she can't hear, he can't read, drive, etc.'
More recent:
My Dad is 94 and Mom is 88. They're in Florida, I'm near DC, and brother in IA. They sold their house a few months ago and moved into a residence which offers social activities and services of various sorts, including physical therapy and companions. I think they've been slow to take advantage of various offerings.
We noticed changes in Moms behavior during the past year or so (after she broke hip and recovered.) Dad is becoming frustrated and saddened because they're having more trouble communicating; her hearing has deteriorated to nil, over many years and hearing aids, and his eyesight is bad. So he can't read, a great frustration, and she can hear only sporadically.
Now her memory is fluctuating, sometimes/days fine, sometimes not, which frustrates Dad a lot.
I visited with them for about a week+ early Feb., and my brother did so after I left. Dad has since complained that she's imobile, which she wasn't at the time; Doc doesn't find any visible reason for this.
Current:
Just learned that my Dad has to move my mother around, into chair I suspect, and that's one of the reasons he's asking for help. One of big questions is this: I can't understand why she's unable to walk, as when I was there early Feb. and she was able to walk, and physical therapist said she was in better shape than most of his patients/clients. Her doc said recently he could see no reasons for such.
So brother and I will be there soon to try to figure out/address issues. I'll leave DC area today, and meet brother Sat at airport.
Hope I haven't skipped any relevant facts, but am becoming more concerned than before; changed in mother's physical situation is a real puzzle to me.
Thanks for your thoughts.
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