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So - you make a new friend, you decide to let them into your World.
You introduce them to some of your friends (you fail to notice that they don't introduce you to any of THEIR friends)(maybe they don't have any?)
anyhoo - all of a sudden YOUR friends that you shared ain't your friends much anymore?
SOCIAL POACHERSread on
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They steal your friends. It's worse than losing a mate.
BARBARA RIGHTON | August 13, 2008
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Connie Varnhagen, a psychology professor at the University of Alberta, says friend selection is little different from mate selection. "You decide which one you would rather have and you go with the better one," she explains. And it's always worth remembering, especially for those who are dumped, that when people are poached, they don't go passively. "It depends on what the poachee wants out of the relationship," Varnhagen says. "It is adaptive. If you were out there somewhere in the big wide world where there were a lot of lions, for example, you might want to hang with someone you think is big and strong and is going to help you out, until you meet another person who is bigger and stronger" — or better dressed or better connected. People also try to poach up, she says, because, "It adds to our perception of ourselves in society."
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Growing up, I was part of a circle of five or six and everyone was friends with everyone. Now I have à la carte friends." Even more depressing, relationship studies, like the one that came out of Duke University two summers ago, say ordinary people are lucky if they have two friends. Twenty-five per cent of the population has no friends at all.
Maybe that's why social poaching is gaining such traction.
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"People sometimes trade up consciously, especially if they think a friend of a friend can help them."
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Interesting
MORE info on this phenomenon
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