laura888
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Sun Jul-24-05 04:27 PM
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Breaking the habit of competition |
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I am a fairly competitive person, and I'm realizing I don't want to be.
I look for situations where I can compete, and then feel great when I'm winning and lousy and uncomfortable when someone else is.
I've alienated people I like because I compete with them. I am not close to my brothers because we grew up competing with each other.
Being in a capitalist society, I think that competitiveness is encouraged. It has served me in some ways - such as making money - but it permeates my life, not just my working life.
I know there is another way to be - have started to explore Buddhism, for instance.
How does one break the habit? Has anyone else gone through anything similar?
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ayeshahaqqiqa
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Sun Jul-24-05 07:56 PM
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1. I think following a spiritual path can help |
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I can't really remember if I have ever been competative, so I might not know-but I know that being on a Path has helped me with personality characteristics that I wished to refine.
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laura888
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Sun Jul-24-05 09:02 PM
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2. thanks - will you share... |
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...what type of path you are on?
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ayeshahaqqiqa
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Mon Jul-25-05 05:59 AM
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3. although each path is unique to the individual |
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most use teachings from one particular school or another. I have been a Sufi initiate since 1989. If you wish to find out more about my particualr path, check out this website:
www.churchofall.us
as it explains it better than I could in a post.
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laura888
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Mon Jul-25-05 04:33 PM
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5. thank you for sharing! |
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I am searching for a path - I will check out the site.
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Mon Jul-25-05 01:52 PM
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Captialism does encourage it but it's not needed in that way. When I did temp work for Dell as a tech, I only competed with myself. Could I solve a problem faster and better? Culd I fix this one weird problem? Over time, my skills greatly improved. Even my manager said that my skills developed faster than the rest of my team. Too bad I solved problems the L2s couldn't solve. That ended my contract.
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