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Well, bear with me and I'll tell you a story. I've posted this here and there over my time on DU.
My introduction to sex work was through sex workers. I saw enough at a fairly young age--14, to decide I'd rather be a pimp than a prostitute, but I digress.
When I was a young runaway, I hit the streets. My best friend, who augmented his income by selling sex introduced me to who would be my friends and my protectors were the young male prostitutes working the street. Over time I met the females of course.
Nearly all those young men died mostly of AIDS. Many of the females ended up in prison, on drugs or dead. Suicide was--and is-- common. I remember those old (to me then) fucks with wives and kids at home picking up 15 year old boys. The lucky or attractive ones would find a sugar daddy to put them up in an apartment. (Big party days back them) Female prostitutes at the time, had the lofty goal of getting a "book" of regulars, so they didn't have to work the street. Occasionally, they to would get a sugar daddy. But the end result of degradation, disease and death for most was the same.
This was many years ago. At one time, and for a long time, I thought as you did about the sex industry, until I took a long hard look at who it benefited. Female or male sex workers are for the benefit of the patriarchal male, who demands sexual access 24/7. Females, through the hard fought gains of feminism, have tried to "empower" themselves with a "my body my choice" type of justification for sex work. In my opinion our sexuality is a broken paradigm. Women are still madonna/whores, wives, mothers or sluts. Or in the "I'd hit it" category if attractive enough. Sex worker HAVE to work inside this paradigm, HAVE to work inside the existing psycho/social structure of patriarchy. I believe, as other radical feminist do, that prostitution should be decriminalized, and those who try to procure sex for money should be prosecuted. Let the johns rot in jail for a while. Let those who degrade women into little more than separate orifices pay the price. They countries where selling sex is legal, STILL have the same problems as the ones that don't.
See, those defending sex work tend to ignore history. I lived through a very small part of it. The successful sex worker is always climbing over the backs of the fallen, the ones who couldn't cut it, the ones who are ashamed. The shame comes from patriarchy as well. Who decided women are weak, sinful, dirty, bad, smelly, stupid, unable to control themselves?
I've read around here that there are those who think sex work is just "making people happy" They haven't been-or have chosen to ignore, on the pimp side, the exploitative side, or heard the conversations of men who really hate women, while needing them. Ugly. Then there is globalization. The world sex trade. The article is from Canada, a fat, wealthy country. There are countries around the world where there is no option for women. No rights. All women are my sisters, not just those who live in wealthy countries, and can write (actually rewrite, this topic had been tossed around a while) articles on how to "fix" the sex industry. In these countries, where the sex industry is huge, and is often supported by first world males, there is no fix. Only terrible stories.
In MY perfect world, no one would ever have to "pay" for sex. We would understand ourselves and each other enough to see sex as a mutual gift. We would be able to put sex in as a loving, enjoyable, hilarious, sometimes transcendent activity, that isn't the first priority of the world.
I know I didn't really address the article well, but I did read it. I'd appreciate YOUR thoughts on this.
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