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There was a thread on DU not too long ago that implied that if a women retired from her full-time career, and stayed home to go back to school, for example, that it was wrong, for she was taking up a spot at a university. I can't find the thread.
DUers, I'm a 47-year-old retired (unofficially - I technically resigned) social worker, who retired to go back to law school.
Yes, I took up a spot in a law school during those four years (Summer 2000 through May 2004). I'm now working on passing the bar examination.
I consider myself a genuine honest-to-Spirit feminist. I graduated from high school in 1976, and fought for equal opportunity for women in 1974, 1975, 1976 and onward.
I NEVER thought that, in order to be a "real" feminist, you had to work full-time. I also NEVER thought that, on order to be part of an egalitarian relationship, a feminist and her partner/spouse had to BOTH full-time. I became a feminist believing that we wanted to use our imaginations, and encourage a couple, particularly one raising children, to consider many options, and consider what was best for them and the family.
My in-laws now like to think of me as a conservative Christian stay-at-home mom. Nothing could be further from the truth. First of all, I'm not a Christian, and I'm progressive, not conservative. Second of all, I'm very busy not only being involved in fun and educational activities with my kid (9-year-old daughter) and husband, but also being involved as an activist in many causes such as PFLAG and Democracy for America. I'm helping with a Congressional campaign. I happen to be a Religious Scientist ( www.rsintl.org ), a very progressively-oriented, modernly-focused faith, along with a UU church.
Anyway, to end the rant, if a man retired from a full-time job, because he had been successful and wanted to go back for more education, he would not be considered a "stay-at-home," with the implication to some of being inferior; I do not want to be considered in such a simple manner either.
Thanks for letting me get this off of my chest; hope it makes sense.
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