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I'm gonna give you (varkam not bloom) a bit of a critique here, which I hope will be taken in the spirit that it's meant, which is to help you look at things from a woman's perspective, not to call you out, and only because you're asking directly how we think women might react to you as a therapist.
I was also thinking of suggesting that you do some gender studies. I mean taking some courses run by a womens studies department, not the psych department.
I searched two things with your user name, not because I remembered your name, but because some attitudes are so ingrained in men that I figure they are embedded in all men. Some men recognize that at some point, and work to undo it. Most don't. Anyway, I searched your name and the word "balls." And then I searched your name and the word "bitch."
Before you decide you'd make a good therapist for women, I think you need to get to a place where you don't think along the lines of strong/mouthy/bossy (whatever) people needing to "get their pants custom tailored" to fit their giant balls. Whether you disagree with a person or agree with them, the trait of them being outspoken about their beliefs should not be tied in your head to the size of their (male) genitals.
Likewise, if you dislike a woman, you need to get to a place where you can dislike her as an individual, and not see her as a "bitch" - a dehumanized thing that is embodied in a word that describes a "class" of women you dislike. It's the sexist equivalent of calling a slacker who happens to be Mexican a "lazy Mexican." The reference becomes more than a statement about an individual - it becomes a confirmation of a negative stereotype, and while I'm sure there are, in fact, lazy mexicans just as their are lazy white folks (I admit to being one), the phrasing of it points to an attitude toward the race itself, just as the word "bitch" points to an attitude about our gender as a whole.
So I'm suggesting you do some serious studying on that, and come to terms with some of those issues within yourself, because aside from just (I hope) wiping those terms from your vocabularly, I think if you come to an honest understanding of WHY a woman might ask you to make that change, you'll come to a better understanding of women as a whole. Part of being female is to be bombarded with that language day after day after day, nonstop in the media and in our daily interactions, and even on DU. We are forever exposed to the toxic idea that strength = maleness, that if someone disagrees with us, we aren't just viewed as a person on the other side of the debate, we are a shrew, a bitch, etc. - the negativity is so closely tied in with messages about our gender that it becomes part of who we are. Even the women that use those terms themselves, and I'm not denying they exist, are still constantly exposed to that message.
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