Reply #61: So you penalize a man and reward the mother for dishonesty [View All]

[Solo_in_MD]

Which is what the current system does. The current "in the best interest of the child" mantra is used to trample on people who have no involvement with the child and there is no accountability for the mother or DSS.
- True sperm donors (not one night stands) have been gone after for child support
- COntracts between men and women that specified child support are invalidated by the courts
- DSS goes after men for child support based solely on the word of the mother. It is presumptive that she is telling the truth and the man bears all costs of proving otherwise.
- A mother who lied to get child support can not be forced to return it to her victim (best interests of the child)
- Debts incurred by the child while false paternity are being litigated are payable by the man, even if he is later found not to be the father
- If a man pays child support for children he did not father, he is stuck with it for life. There is no recourse for fraud against the mother either

My personal horror story is in post #20.


You hit the nail on the head when you said:

It's in the interest of the state that somebody foot the bill for the baby (otherwise the mother and the child will probably be plunged into poverty and it's the state that will be paying).

The state is not interested in paying, so it wants to pass that responsibility on to some man, whether or not its the right person does not matter.