Reply #156: You should have stopped with "and I don't know him at all". [View All]

[sadiesworld]

When we were dating, I was the one to bring up the subject of porn. I was not negative, naive, nor dismissive. He said that he had the usual porn-watching experiences when younger (he was 34 when we met) but was ultimately "turned off" by porn.

I don't attempt to monitor him, I simply know where he is at virtually any given moment. (In fact, he wishes I called him at work more often to break up his day.) The idea of him going to an adult bookstore on his lunch-break is laughable. He only goes out to lunch about twice a month and then only with two other men from his office. Trust me, these men who have a semi-formal relationship, and only socialize outside work once a year (holiday dinner with wives), are not tripping off to an XXX shop after downing their burgers.

I have no desire to divulge the details of our sex life but suffice it to say it is fairly typical. I make that assessment based on previous relationships and "girl-talk" with friends.

I don't think he is a "saint" because he doesn't watch porn (nor does he) and if he wanted to watch an x-rated DVD, I'm down with that. In fact, last night I told him about this thread and asked him if he was intereseted in getting a porn movie sometime. He said no. He DID seem a bit concerned that he was somehow an odd duck because he doesn't care for pornography (LOL).

I see you are having a tough time getting your mind around the idea that there are some men who don't watch porn, but it is true. :shrug: