Reply #27: Family [View All]

[wolfgirl]

arguments can be the worst. At times we have all had those moments we were in complete & total disagreement with a gulf between us that seems insurmountable. BUT...you have to remember what has made you a family. I don't know your personal situation, but take a step back.

The situation between your brother & your Mom & Dad...is this something entirely between them? If so, then you need to become a neutral party. You can agree with one side or the other, but if you aren't a party to the argument...stay out of it. Keep the doors open and become a facilitator in bringing them back together.

As the Mom of twins (very headstrong 18 yr olds)...I know I can't solve the disagreements they have. Only they can work it out. But I do make sure each of them knows I love them both NO MATTER WHAT. I encourage them to talk, keeping in mind they are brothers and one day may have only each other to turn to for aid/comfort.

If they can't agree on something, I tell them to let it go at least until they can be calm/rationale when they try to work it. Of course, there will be some things that will never be resolved. Remember what is important and what matters. I've told both my boys - NO MATTER WHAT, I will ALWAYS love them. Albeit I might not always like them or approve of their actions. I expect respect for my opinions from each, but I also give them the respect for theirs. I've told them I will always be here, but I won't always bail them out.

Don't close the door on your brother. Listen to your heart. You love your parents and you love him. And I would bet it's returned. Unless there is something significant about him you haven't shared, he is just as heartbroken.

I'll keep a prayer for all of you!