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[Love Bug]

It sounds like you have a sensible handle on your situation.

For the record, I'm not the one who feels Christmas will be ruined, that is my daughter. Because I live alone (well, at least I will once sis moves out tomorrow) I'm pretty flexible. I've spent Christmas away from home more than once and have come to learn it is what you choose to make it.

However, there is more to it than what I posted earlier. My son-in-law lost his job 2 weeks ago, so right now they are going through a lot of grief and tension over that. Add in the idea my daughter has always wanted a big family around for holidays (we are only a few) and you can see that her expectations about Christmas have always been a bit unrealistic. I've tried to talk to her about that, and she has come to terms with it somewhat, but now she feels like she is losing what little family she has. I like to think this all wouldn't be so dramatic if they weren't so stressed about the job loss. To me, that is the more important issue anyway.

As far as how I feel about my sis's boyfriend-- My concern is how this has changed her. It feels like she was swapped for a stepford wife or something. I acknowledge she is an adult and entitled to make her own decisions. About all I can do is live and let live and focus on making my grandson's Christmas the best I can.