Reply #32: Sounds like my son too, great with relationships, bored easily [View All]

[uppityperson]

Art, music, math, all these are relationship things, how do things relate to each other, puzzle solving skills. People who excell at this type stuff frequently seem to get bored easily, have little patience for repetitive busywork. Converse is true also. Unfortunately places like schools are able to deal better with the sitting quietly doing busywork people due to various factors (like not having the time or resources available to deal with the others), so our kids do not excell gradewise.

He might get interested in 1 thing and stick with it, or he might jump from obsession to obsession as mine did. However, now, at 17, I can look back and see that almost everything that he was interested in enough to pursue fall in the category of relationships. Math-how do numbers and things relate. Music-how do tones and rhythms relate. Photography, art, dance, acting, physics, wordplay, puzzles, all how do things relate to each other. He also has a large group of friends and larger group of acquaintences who he cares about dearly, is very empathetic towards people, animals, the world. As 1 teacher put it, he is in the group that does not get the best grades but make the best students because they are busy, active and engaged.

Hang in there, sounds like you are doing fine. It is tough having one of these kids, but keep working with him, being his advocate, and it pays off in the long run. They are wonderful humane people.